Guys who break up w/their gf to get another girl

Okay, this is a question for guys that break up with their current girlfriend just to get another girl. How do you feel after you've done that and do you ever think about your gf? How she would be hurt? Or do you just not care? And how could guys say that you love them and blah blah and do that?

Well I guess, obviously if a guy did that he didn't love her...right??

I agree

but i also believe
that love is a mutual feeling between to beings
you dont stop loving someone
you simply get over the longing to be loved

At least he broke up with her and didn't just go cheat and hide it, though it's not just a guy thing, girls are guilty too.

As for love I guess that would depend on if he meant it, how long they were together, people fall out of love, it doesn't mean some measure of love never existed.

Girls do it just as much as guys.
And you have to give the guy credit for even breaking up with her first. Some guys won't even give you the slightest respect to do that. Yeah, yeah, what he's doing is horrible, but he stepped up and ended it before he dragged it out any further--then it would've hurt even more if he'd just waited, or worse: if he ended up cheating.

Maybe they did love them. Maybe they just said it. The idea of love these days is so skewed that no one really knows what it is or when they're actually feeling it. Some say it because it's not such a big deal to them; some say it because they truly believe they love that person; some say it because they feel obligated to--and others say it because they truly mean it. So frankly, you can't just shove these guys together and generalize.

You can't say that it's obvious the guy didn't actually love her. My ex-boyfriend broke up with his girlfriend to be with me, but he truly did love her. He just fell out of love while falling in love with someone else. It happens. He couldn't stop it. And it may sound horrible, but that didn't mean he didn't care. He waited, contemplating for a whole month the amount of pain he'd cause her--but also the amount of pain he'd feel every minute he spent with me even if we weren't doing anything. Because he knew that in a way, this was cheating. We were so close, but we couldn't be together. I was sitting right next to him, but he couldn't touch me while knowing that his girlfriend was unaware of his emotions. To love someone else, to spend time with them--even as just friends, just hanging out--while with someone...

They're not all bad people--the ones that break up with someone for someone else--you stop loving someone in that way and find someone else in the process... What else are you supposed to do?

It all depends on the guy. My current boyfriend of 2 years is amazing. before we started dating, he broke up with his girlfriend for another girl. he feels terrible. it made him realize how it hurts girls to do things like that. he learned his lesson, and now he tries his hardest never to hurt anyone.

Thanks for the input everyone. I'm actually asking this because this was what my recent ex did to me. I guess I was just wondering. I was really hurt by it and I was actually the one that broke up with him because I noticed a lot of things have changed. So, I'm not sure if he actually cheated on me or not but five days after we broke up he had a new gf. Also, we've been going out for over 2 years so I guess the fact that he could move on so easily hurt. I had to figure that out from other people that he had a new gf. It's been like maybe over 3 months now..and I have moved on, I have a new boyfriend and it's going great. But since I'm asking these questions...I don't think I've officially moved on. I think it's just the fact that I don't understand. And I'm still trying to understand..why?!? But thanks everyone (:

I've never done that and I'll never do it :)
It's just not love when you break up for another girl!!

^^ You can't say you'll never do it and I think it's bull when people say it's not love when they trade someone for another.

They couldve also just cheated so it's better they broke up. I think it can be love, it's just that someone else has caught their eye and they fell in love. it happens when you're young, you fall in love

Well... I will say, I give props to him for at least having enough respect to let you go first. That alone proves that it wasn't a false sense of emotion, he really cares about your well being.

Eh. I broke up with my boyfriend of two and a half years once I was emotionally out of the relationship, and I realized that he's not what I want, and it wasn't worth the effort I was putting into it. I realized the relationship was useless once I started having feelings that I shouldn't have towards somebody else.

After we broke up, I was sad for one night, and by the next morning I was totally over it. I figured I should wait to pursue things with the other person, but then I realized what am I waiting for? I'm an adult, I know what I want, and there's no set timeline for grieving.

I guess what I'm saying is, I can relate to him, and I don't think he's a bad person for moving on quickly. He has no loyalties to you anymore; he's free to do what he wants.

I completely agree with what everyone says. I was just hurt at the time and was in shock but yes I was the one that did break up with him because things had changed. And yes, something was wrong in the relationship so it was bound to happen. But I'm glad that he has moved on and that he's happy. I'm glad we didn't waste more time with each other because I knew we would've ended breaking up someday.

Yes, I agree he isn't a bad person for doing that. I remember he said that he didn't want to hurt me and now I understand why he had said that.

I also feel that I have moved on myself, maybe not completely but I'm truly getting towards it. I'm also with someone else right now and I feel happy and lucky to find someone that loves me back. I never thought I would ever love again but it's possble.

Thank you everyone for your input, it really made me realize things that I didn't know before.