So he's in a relationship now...and I kind of feel betrayed?

So I have had a long time crush on this guy and I really felt he liked me too. We went to the movies together, we flirted...but he'd never make his own move. So I withdrew a little in the past couple of months cause I was getting tired of it. But it's just a slap in the face to get on facebook in the morning and see that it says he's now in a relationship.

All of a sudden I just feel exhausted. All my feelings, just wasted. I'm happy if he's happy, but it's so unexpected that it makes the hurt all the worse and makes me feel extra lonely. In a way I'm glad I have a reason to move on but...I'd rather be with him, you know?

And my best friend knows how much I liked him. So when I tell her about this and I just brush it off like it doesn't matter...she'll know I'm lying. But I refuse to break down and cry about a boy who I didn't even really date.

And I feel like I have words inside me that need to be written down...but I don't have the oomph inside me to get them out.

I dunno, thanks for listening.

Maybe he just saw you as a friend. I mean, if he really did like you, why didn't he keep contact when you were backing away? He didn't neccessarily betray you because you can't assume that he had feelings for you. And since he didn't make the moves, why didn't you? You never had a relationship with him and also stopped talking to him for a couple months so I don't see this as a big deal. Not to sound rude, I'm just being honest, you should've made the move.

How could he betray you when he wasnt going out with you. You didnt say for sure that he did like you. & since you stopped talking to him he didnt come back did he?...like the person above " you should've made the move"

"I really felt he liked me too..........but he'd never make his own move. So I withdrew a little in the past couple of months cause I was getting tired of it."

For one, that tells me you didn't actually tell him that you liked him, or ever found out if he really liked you, so frankly, you don't have any claim on him whatsoever. Second, why does he have to make the move? Why couldn't you? And third, withdrawing because you yourself don't have enough guts to make a move is selfish to me. Maybe he did like you, but most guys see the girl withdraw and they think there's something wrong with themselves--and apparently, his fault was not making the first move--and they move on.

So, you were never with him. And if he never told you he liked you, then really, I don't see the opening for betrayal anywhere. But if it was a long time "crush" then you'll move on, because it was just a crush--and life always gives you room to look further than the ones you feel hurt over.

Actually it's very normal to flirt on a date, it's even more normal to kiss on a date... doesn't mean there's chemistry and it doesn't mean he even liked you.
I know that's a little harsh but I've been there... both showing fake interest and being shown fake interest.
Move on sugarplum.
P.S. Facebook relationships don't always mean it's anything serious. Just wait... in a couple weeks you'll see that little broken heart icon. Then go to his house and sing outside his window (don't do that)