HELP PLEASE!

  • Phantasma
    16 years ago

    My best friend likes me and I dont feel the same way so he gets really jealous when ever I talk about other guys and it's not that hes mean about it or anything its just he gets really sad and I can tell. Now because of this I feel like I can't date anyone or get a boyfriend because it will hurt him. Also hes always afraid he'll lose me even tho I tell him he wont and that I really care about him. What can I do to help him see that I do care about him and hes not going to lose me as a friend. Is it wrong for me to feel so guilty about this? and should I continue not to see anyone just so I dont hurt him?

    I also have another problem I have these two friends and they always get so jealous of me because everyone thinks I'm so pretty and gives me attention and complements me more then they do to them so they sometimes get angry and say bad things and now I feel so excluded. They never ask me to hang out anymore or let me in on jokes and when its just the three of us they text each other like they have some kind of secret that I'm not allowed to know.
    I know they dont seem like very good friends but they use to be my best friends in the whole world I have even know one of them for 13 years now. What can I do to stop them from being so jealous of me? and how can I feel included again?

  • Beautiful Chaos
    16 years ago

    "I have these two friends"

    You do? Because they don't sound like friends to me. People change and grow, if they can't get over their own insecurities let them go.

    As for the first part, you can't put your life on hold, he will have to eventually come to the understanding on his own, that you just want to be friends and nothing more.

  • Misunderstood Misery
    16 years ago

    As for the second part, I understand. I have a couple of "friends" who do those sorts of things and then repeat or copy things I do or say. But I realized that they weren't my real friends. If they were your friends then they wouldn't get hateful and exclude you from things. If they were your real friends then they wouldn't do that to you. But that's just my oppinion.

    ^^As for every the person above me said, I totally agree.

  • SomewhereAmongThePieces
    16 years ago

    My best friend is the same way. I told him that my relationships don't last that long and they always end in hatred SO I would rather have a best friend for a lifetime than a boyfriend for a week. Trust me, it sounds a whole lot better than "I just don't like you that way".

    As for your friends, I wonder if maybe they're more annoyed with you drawing attention to your attributes rather than other people. I know I've ditched friends because they were all like " I know I'm pretty... like every boy wants me and I just like.. I wonder which one to choose"

  • Phantasma
    16 years ago

    I guess everyone is right about my best friend getting over me, it's just I dont like to see him sad expectually when its because of me.

    Somewhere Among The Pieces, I get what your saying but I dont think they're annoyed with me because of that. I NEVER say im pretty or anything like that and when it comes to boys I hardly ever go out or date them. Also I believe that if I had to choose between two guys and I didnt know what one to pick then it means I dont really like either of them.