To the young ones...

To the young ones of this forum, as well as some of the older ones - I'd like to share some wisdom.

I'm 23, I've been on here since I was 18. I joined the Army at 19 and I got out last year. I've had love and written much poetry about it. I've been with some bad women, and I've been with a great one. I thought she was the ONE, but she blamed me for taking her virginity the first month we were together and 2 years later she broke up with me over guilt. Saying she loves me, but isn't in love with me. We were best friends, and now she won't even talk to me.

The point is...love is an amazing thing, but it doesn't last. True love is that one person who completes you and leaves no questions un-answered. If you've found true love, then God bless you. But for those of you like me who are still looking - just wait for it to COME TO YOU. Don't go look for it, it doesn't work that way. Most people on here are young, you have many years of enjoyment ahead of you before you should tie someone else into your life.

Love is a complicated thing, and YOU NEED TO BE COMPLETE before you try and share a life with someone else. That's my best advice. I'm done ranting! Take care all :)

"But for those of you like me who are still looking - just wait for it to COME TO YOU. Don't go look for it, it doesn't work that way."

^ That's something that I actually always say & have followed. Don't go in search of love, but rather wait, and if it's meant to be true then love will come to you. :)

I also agree, love is complicated. I hear some people question to whether true love exists and some who even so much as tries to tell others that they're just following a universal trend or simply that true love does not exist. For some it's different, some people have found that one person in their lives while others have not, and that's what makes love so confusing. But hey, everyone believes in something, some believe in true love.

Thought I would just bring that to the forum since Sluvious mentioned that "you gotta believe in miracles". By the way, I like that one. :)

Well my viewpoint, hopeless, about love is a fairly logical one. I take the stance that when you first meet someone, you are either physically attracted to them or you build up a good comfort level. Love is the progression of feelings and dependence that the two share throughout the relationship. The beginning however is more lustful and hormonal - generally speaking.

So I do believe in Love, but I think Love is the bi-product of sharing so much with someone, and having them around you so much. You FALL in love with them, you don't meet them and then love them.

^ I completely agree. I don't believe that you can fall in love at first sight either. I believe that it grows, over time.

Well speaking from a communicative standpoint, people generally are attracted towards the opposite sex because our own fantasies attract us to certain people. It may be physically, or it might have something to do with the way they carry themselves. I'm not saying EVERY relationship is based off of the cliche notion of physical attraction. I am however stating that people generally relate towards people who catch their attention and fulfill some fantasy or place in their image of a significant other.

It really all has to do with communication, both verbal and non-verbal. Within the first 30 seconds of meeting someone, you form an impression of them. So fundamentally speaking, people are attracted towards those who mirror some fantasy (knight in shinning armor, the bad boy, the loner boy, the cute shy girl, the outgoing party girl.)

We most always stereotype, even in the most subtle of ways, other people. So the notion of love at first sight is actually founded on lust at first sight. Even though we can't define love as a whole, we can all agree that love is something that is built up and fed - not an instant "he's in my class, he's so hot, gotta get him" ideal. =p

I completely agree. you shouldn't go looking for love. and when you DO find it, it takes a lot of work....i met my boyfriend purely by chance, and im not saying its true love or anything because it's far too soon to tell, but it is the closest thing i've felt to something real in my life. and yeah, it's hard because we live 2 hours away from each other and we argue from time to time, but we stay strong through everything even though it's really hard sometimes. i know i'm only 18, and people think people my age dont truly know the meaning of love. and you know..i thought i did until recently. i thought i loved someone in the past, but now that i see how strong these feelings are for my current boyfriend, i know that it was just infactuation in the past. and its amazing how this love found me when i was in no search of having someone whatsoever. =]