I'm not sure what to feel...

  • Truest Lies
    15 years ago

    Okay, well, where to start?

    I'm 15, I'm going to be 16 in a bit over 2 months (I joined this site when I was 12, by the way)

    I've never dated, never been kissed, nothing like that at all. Perhaps I'm what you'd call a "late bloomer."

    Well, 3 months ago I joined a dance course, and met a really nice, friendly guy. We've become quite good friends.
    He invited me to a museum to help him translate for a foreigner friend, and then he wants me to accompany him to a foreign embassy so he can get a traveler's visa.

    So first I felt "hmm, he's just asking me to translate for him all the time, it's not as though he's making excuses to see me...?"
    Grrr.. and then we were chatting on msn and first he says that he has to tell me a secret later when we see each other in person, and then he asks me (over msn) if I ever "felt anything for him," and I had to confess (perhaps rather vaguely) that I did. When I asked him what he said that he had become rather attached to me and thought I was a good person, etc, but that his heart was blocked off because he didn't want to start feeling anything seeing as he has to travel soon, and he's going to be away for 4 months, and wants his heart to be tranquil for when he has to leave, he says...

    What do you think this means?
    What could the secret be ?? :S
    things like this, they just don't happen to me... so I'm imagining that it's no big deal, whatever it is.

    I'm just tired of liking people so much, having false hopes, getting broken up about stupid things.
    Thanks for reading. perhaps you could lend your visions on the subject :P

    //T.L.//

  • Beautiful Chaos
    15 years ago

    "he asks me (over msn) if I ever "felt anything for him,"

    ^Most likely because he likes you

    But hesitant because

    "he has to travel soon, and he's going to be away for 4 months"

  • Truest Lies
    15 years ago

    He told me the "secret" !!!

    ...and it was that someone confessed to having a gay crush on him. He's not gay by the way, so he was rather shocked.
    And he hasn't made any mention of the weird "have you ever felt anything for me" question... and on msn in his nick he's got stuff like "one day I'll find my ideal person."

    Sometimes I wish I could tell him "your ideal person is right in front of you." But I know that as it is, I'm not the one for him, and he deserves way better than a girl like me.
    Maybe I'm relieved, maybe I'm disappointed.
    I don't know... :/

    //T.L.//

  • RoseBlood
    15 years ago

    I think you should tell him the things you feel about him, and don't be dissapinted if tells you that he doesn't feel the same way as you do.
    He's going away for four months, but he'll be back.
    He is probably afraid of getting really attached to you before he leaves, and he might be in pain for those few months.
    But, don't worry about his feelings, or his thoughts, cos if you don't tell him before he leaves, and you let him go not knowing what could have happen, you'll be regretting for a long time in the future.
    Don't let this guy leave before you tell him.
    And he told you that one day he will find the right person...may behe's expecting you to tell him that you are the right person and in front of him.
    oh, and....most of the guys that are falling for a girl, don't have courage to tell it to them in person, may be that's why he starts a conversation like that only on msn.
    I really think you should tell him how you feel.