I think I might be pregnant...HELP!!!

I don't know, I think I might be pregnant. I mean I'm peeing alot more that usual, I'm almost constantly moody, I'm getting fatter than I have ever been despite the fact that I don't eat very much (or at least as much as I used to). I kno this is not from my period because it isn'tt supposed to come until next week, and it NEVER comes early. I took a pregnancy test and it came out negative, but I am almost positive I am pregnant. What do you think? I'm loosing my mind because my fiance mensioned recently that I look like I am gaining weight and that I have been seriously moody lately. We are not ready for a baby as I am still in college and he doesn't have a great paying job to be able to support a baby right now. I have always just told him that he is imagining things and that I am not moody and that I am only a little heavier that usual and that it is just because I am getting a better appetite than I used to have. I just don't know.

3 times in the last 2 years I thought pregnancy was a possibility and not once did I have to get on here and ask, I made a doctor's appointment lol

Sorry but if you wouldn't spread your legs you wouldn't be pregnant. Maybe if you were having intercourse responsibly,you wouldn't be pregnant birth control, condoms and stuff

"Sorry but if you wouldn't spread your legs you wouldn't be pregnant. Maybe if you were having intercourse responsibly,you wouldn't be pregnant birth control, condoms and stuff"

1. Even responsible individuals can have cause to worry. It's easy to get yourself psyched out over things, which is what it sounds like here.

2. Weren't you the one getting worked up about people's poor grammar?

"Sorry but if you wouldn't spread your legs you wouldn't be pregnant. Maybe if you were having intercourse responsibly,you wouldn't be pregnant birth control, condoms and stuff"

How harsh!! I admit, this girl sounds like she is being silly. But she also sounds like she is in a relationship and funnily enough people in relationships have sex and yes, most of us take precautions.

I had a pregnancy scare a few months ago before i turned 20, because of a mishap with my pill. It is a fact of life accidents can happen so think before you speak and lump all people who have sex together

I hope you feel ashamed of your words

You might have gained because you ate different things... You don't even have to be pregnant. Go to the doctor's they'll tell you what's up.

And what's the thing with her doubting if she's pregnant? Darn you people. You are so mean, she's so desperate for answers, SUPPORT and help, she thought she could find it here, a place full of nice people and NONE of you ('cept for a few, sorry) support her in ANY way. SHAME ON YOU!!! She's in college, but do you know her circumstances? Do you know if she had unprotected sex? No, you don't. Maybe she did use protection, maybe it failed, because let me tell you, mature babies, knowing everything about sex and protection: BIRTHCONTROL DOES FAIL SOMETIMES.

Girl, I wish you the best of luck =]

Very true, birth control can fail but abstinence never does, if people are not ready to bear the responsibilities of a sexual relationship, don't get into one.

What scares me is how many people get on here instead of making the trek to the doc's office, who cares what we think, take care of yourself the way you are going to have to in the end, by going to a professional

On a side note Britt. Depo is a scary thing. I had to stop taking it because if you suffer from depression it can make it 100 times worse, which it did for me. There is also a chance of limb pregnancy (only partial developing a fetus), it can also cause infertility. Depo alone is scary.

I've been through this before. A lot of times when people say things like "you might be pregnant" it makes you paranoid. I'm not saying that you aren't. Obviously it's a huge possibility. I would definitely make a doctors appointment if you haven't already. And, if you're not ready I do suggest taking methods to control such things if you aren't already.

I know it's rough to go through. Haha, I'm only 17. But, I haven't had sex since I thought it could be a possibility. (: It scared the life out of me.

And, you also have to think... sometimes when people find out they're pregnant they tend to mature some. Find better jobs. Take steps to be a good parent. If you are pregnant, hopefully you and your boyfriend will be two of those people.

I understand that you are young & scared but...

As many people have already said... We can't diagnose you! Shouldn't you be old enough to realize this?

And like many people have suggested... Make a doctors appointment! It's really rather simple. Shouldn't you be old enough to know that?

There's your advice.

Thank you all (except a slim few_ for being of no help!!! I just wanted someone to talkt o who could relate to what I am going through, but I guess this is the wrong place for that!!!

Anyways, for those of you who care, I did make a doctors appointment and I went to the doctors last Monday. And yeah I am pregnant. I took2 pregnancy tests before I went and they both came out negative but I was still parinoid and it was a good thing I was. I am 2 months pregnant. I have not told my fiance or my parents yet. I'm just afraid of what they'll say. I know my parent's will kill me and I tthink I'll just scare the heck right out of my fiance.

The only reason why i was so rude, because toward the end of your post it sounded like (even though you didn't say it) you didn't want the baby if you were and sounded like you were talking abortion. If thats not the case, I apologise. I'm truly against abortions., which i guess is why i replied the way I did. I wish you luck with the baby.

I still have not told my fiance or my parentsbecause I am scared. I know that may seem childish but I will deff. tell them soon. I have to. I can't keep this from them even though I may want to because I am scared of their reaction. And no way am I thinking abortion, that is the last thing I would ever do!!!

What's done is done hun, time to stop being scared, face them and start preparing. You really don't have that long to go if you think about it.

You should tell your SO first. It is his child too, so he should be the first to tell. After you get things settled with him, you and him go to your parents. Don't do it alone.. its his too, he's in this with you.

I told my fiance today and he was so shocked he barely said a word to me all day, but I knew he was happy. Also I told my mother (because I only live with her). She was like "Are you serious!" I was like "Yeah totally." And she was like "I told you that you could stay under my roof as long as you didn't get preg. So now you're out!!!" And then I was like "I'm only kidding mom. I just wanted to see what your reaction would be." And she was like "You better be!" So now I don't know what to do. I guess I'm just going to talk it over with my fiance and see.

You're 19, not like you're 15, get it together and if that means taking some responsibility and getting your own place, get on it. Lying to your mom won't help, it doesn't buy you more time, sometimes you just gotta take your medicine. There are lots of programs and groups out there.

I can't afford for my mom to kick me out. She is paying for my college and with a baby and all that's the only way for me to get a decent enough job for me to support my baby. And btw I am 20 but not like it really matters.

Amanda, you are really quite blunt at times! I understand your point and I actually totally agree with you.

Her Mum however might take the news badly at first but might warm to it, i mean, somehow I doubt she will see her grandchild, a helpless, blameless baby thrown out onto the streets.

She might be mad for a while but your mum is the only person who should be there for you no matter what with only your best interests at heart.

Even though this is completely different. you an relate to it in a way.

My parents told me that if i ever moved out that the door would never be open. that i would have to pay rent to move back in. Now my parents are almost begging me to move back in.. they don't want me gone.

Your mother will understand. Yea, she may be mad at first.. but its just shock. She's not going to let her daughter or her grandchild live out in the streets. If shes paying for your college, she loves you enough to want you to have a good future. She's not going to be the one to throw that away and let you live out on the streets with a baby.

Preach on Amanda lol

20 years old, handle your business like the adult you are supposed to be. I had my daughter @ 22, didn't have my life together in the least, but quickly turned it around because I had to, for my daughter, my fears and worries don't really matter anymore, taking care of and providing for her take the lead. Some of you might think 7 months seems like a long time, but it isn't, time to pull it together now and get a grip on maturity, if she wasn't responsible enough to handle it, she shouldn't have been having sex, we all have to lay in the beds we make. Some of you may find it harsh, but life isn't all flowers and butterflies.

And if she is matured enough to be in love and engaged she should be mature enough to handle her life.

Lol Amanda, sometimes I just have to shake my head.

My daughter is fabulous though, hard to believe she turns 10 this year, the years just fly by once you become a parent.

Ok, I am trying to eb mature about this whole thing so I told my mother today that I am really pregnant and that I am not joking and I told her that I am 2 months pregnant and I told her who the father was (or who I thought the father was) I even told her the whole thing about me sleeping with other men at the same time I got pregnant and stuff. She told me that I have 1 week to get my things and get out and she doesn't care where I go but I have to get out or she will have me removed. She can be really hartless at times, but I think it is because she is mad right now and she will probibly come to her sences in a day or two, but I don't know what I am going to do if she doesn't. But at least I was mature about the whole thing and told her exactally what was going on.

"I told her who the father was (or who I thought the father was) I even told her the whole thing about me sleeping with other men at the same time I got pregnant and stuff."

This would probably make me want to teach you a lesson as well. 20 years old, more than one potential father and school is an afterthought though she is paying for it right now. It doesn't sound to me like it is your mother who needs to come to her senses. Let's just pray you make better choices with your child and you can instill some values in him or her. Time to focus on the child. Good luck.

I usually disagree with how Amanda goes about giving people advice, but I have to say I agree with her. You seem quite immature at 20 years old.

At least it's out in the open now. Well, minus the fact you don't know who the dad is. I do suggest finding out ASAP without putting the baby at risk. I know sometimes those things, while the baby is in the womb, can be dangerous. I wouldn't suggest finding out while it's in the womb if it's a dangerous thing. But, I do suggest letting it all out in the open. You can't just keep it a secret all your life.

Wow..why the heck are you engaged? to be honest, you don't seem mature enough to even have a boyfriend, let alone a fiance. you are engaged, but you are sleeping with other men? that is disgusting...you honestly need to grow up, because this baby will be born in 7 months, and you will need to take care of him/her, and at this point in time you can't seem to even take care of yourself.

you're mother is just trying to teach you a lesson. she told you that you could live with her as long as you weren't pregnant, and now you are...you brought it upon yourself.

good luck, that's all i can say.

Uhm get a doctor's apointment!!!

HAHA.
I actually find it quite amusing now. I think you deserve this. What goes around comes around.

I just hope you make a good mother to your child. Perhaps you should have thought about your mothers words to you about getting pregnant before you started sleeping around.
And now it's too late for you to worry about school and having somewhere to live.

It's funny how when people are handed everything on a plate they take it for granted. Think of the poor kids in Africa who are desperate for a shelter over their heads and to go to school. Then the ones who actually have it given to them don't even realise how lucky they are and then waste their chances at a fantastic life by sleeping around and disrespecting their parents.

Hm. People make mistakes, but when mistakes end up creating an innocent new life that can potentially be ruined before it starts? That's bad man.

No I have not told my fiance that I was with other men. He thinks he is the baby's father and I am going to let him think that. I have enough problems without another one attached.

And no my mother has not come to her senses yet. She still is planning on kicking me out. All she said to me today was "SLUT! How could you!" and then she started crying.

^ Well by sleeping with other men you do fit the description...

By keeping that secret from your finance you DO have another problem. One way or another, someday soon or in the future, he will find out. Whether it be from your own guilty conscious or someone/something else making themselves/itself known. If he find out later in the future, how would he feel after knowing that you kept it from him all that time? It'd only make things worse, especially for your child.

You want me to tell him for you?

"No I have not told my fiance that I was with other men. He thinks he is the baby's father and I am going to let him think that. I have enough problems without another one attached."

It's already a problem darling. And, when he finds out another way, which is possible considering that your mother is VERY angry and it seems that she is capable of doing more than calling you a slut. Which means; She's surely capable of having an adult conversation with your boyfriend/fiance, whatever it is you're calling him. You might as well be the adult instead of letting her prove you wrong over and over and over.

Considering you are wrong.

Why not be right for once? Do the right thing?

You are honestly not going to tell him that he may not be the father? that is truly horrid what you are doing. what if the baby is born and looks NOTHING like him, he will find out. you keeping this from him will ruin your relationship when he finds out.

as was said, you need to stop worrying about only yourself. your actions brought all this upon you, you need to grow up and take responsibility

you're the person that gives all young relationships a bad name, congrats.

grow up. you're 20, act like it! you're acting like a child.

Way to be selfish once again and think of you instead of your child, I can see you are going to be great at this parenting thing.

Any other pieces left to the story? I think ill stick to my original post that if you wouldn't spread your legs that wouldn't happen.

Let me get this straight. Your engaged, you supposedly love this guy, yet you do the worst betrayal of all by cheating and lying to him?

Immature if you ask me. I hope that when he finds out if he's the fathers baby, that he still takes care of the baby if its his. As for you, it's his own choice, but I wouldn't stay with you.

I am praying for this girls child.

I wonder if one of the men she slept with was some other race from her and the baby arrives looking absolutely not her boyfriends child.

Then at least she wont have to get the guts to 'tell him'.

AND ALSO, DeathRose, don't you respect your fiancee? I mean, I can quite clearly see you have no self-respect, but how can you tell someone you love them if you don't even have the respect for them to tell them the truth.
Please, if you do decide to tell the poor boy, tell him to his face. Don't tell us you have guts and you're mature if you're not even going to have the decency to speak to him face to face to tell him you'd lied and slept around when you were still telling him you love him.

I am praying for this girls child.
^ same here...that child is going to have a heck of a world to come into if things don't change....

"I am praying for this girls child."

^ As am I. I pray you do the right thing by your finance & for you child because they deserve so much better than that! Take responsibility for your actions & prepare for the consequences.

You were really lucky you know that. You were in "love" (I say this because if you really did love him you wouldn't have done what you did), someone does love you & you're engaged to him. But you threw it all away. And for what? Was it worth it? You really don't deserve him, but you do deserve to reap what you have sown. You brought it upon yourself.

Like I said, some way or another the truth will come out. And like Amanda said, what happens if down the road you find out the child has a hereditary disease & neither you or your finance's family had a history of it? You're gonna need that information... You are putting your child's very life at risk.

I slept with 2 other men. One was 14 and thew other one was 28. I made a big mistake and now I have to go and fix what I did, which I think I can never do.

Well today I told my fiance that my mother was kicking me out because of me being preg. I asked him if there was any way I could stay with him for a little while until I figured out what i was going to do. He said I could but then I told him about the other men and he immediately told me that I couldn't stay at his house anymore. It also sounded like he was really angry and it looked like he was about to cry. I don't blame him at all. I messed up in a big, big way. We're still together as of right now, but I don't know...and if he dumped me then so be it. I made my bed and now I have to lie in it.