Advice, please? :(

Someone my boyfriend knew has just recently died. he said he hasn't talked to me or answered when i called or text because he feels like just being alone. i understand that, i really do. and i wanna be there for him though, but because he wants to be alone, it's like he won't let me. i'm trying to respect his alone time, but it's hard cause i'm not hearing from him. i don't wanna be dramatic about it and constantly try to talk to him or make him talk to me, but i'm worried.... how can i deal with this? should i just wait for him to be ready to talk to me and not try to talk to him, giving him his alone time to deal, or should i keep letting him know that i'm here if he needs anything and just at least once a day, text or call? i don't wanna be dramatic about it :( so, anyone got some advice?..... i'd appreciate it very much.

I agree with both of the above posts.

Death is hard on everyone. And every person has their own way of dealing with it. This person was probably very important to him. I would just send him a text, or leave him a voicemail letting him know that I loved him and was there for him whenever he needed me. Let him know I was thinking about him. I think you should do that. It would probably comfort him more.

Aawwww *hugs you* I know what you're going through and its hard, its also a very hard time for him though too. My fiance and I just went through this 2 months ago. You're doing good that you're trying to respect his alone time and giving him time to sort through things and deal with it, sometimes that can be real hard with people around to do. I know it's real hard giving him space and him not calling you back, talking to you and contacting you back but all you can do is keep giving him space and wait for him to talk to you about it. Just keep sending texts, write emails, send a comment or message on myspace if you both use it, just send a little note reminding him that you love you, that you're there for him and if he needs to talk or just needs someone to listen then you're there. Writing is probably better then calling though. Thats about all you can do hun if he says he needs space. Be strong for him, he's probably feeling weak, scared and lonely like normally comes with a person you care about dying so be strong for him and send him strength and support and love. It's hard but you're doing the right thing.

Hang in there hun

Yeh every1 here has the right idea i think.
if u havent already, just let him know that ull b waiting for him whn hes done grieving. then let him be, hell appreciate ur patients and love.

My boyfriend is like that sometimes. i just do whjat he says and leave him alone. it's hard and it hurts to nopt be able to help them, but some guys just need to be alone. just be patient with him and he'll come around. Shanik