Complicated

  • Brittney
    15 years ago

    This is really complicated. or maybe it just is for me. ugh. where to start...

    okay. july fourth i met this guy named jason. he is truely amazing. we hung out all that night at our friends house. since then things have progressed. we are dating now. the only problem i ever seem to have with him is his ex. they were together for six years. this december has only been a year since they split up. they were engaged and would have gotten married in february had things not gone sour. he says that he is over her but it is really hard for me to believe. he has these days. i call them his sky days (her name was skyla). he will get a phone call from her and then for the rest of the day he is depressed. he doesnt want to do anything or have anything to do with anything. he doens't understand that in the long run it really bothers me. we live together with two other room mates so its not like i can just not be around him. Sometimes i wonder if i should just forget it. i try so hard to be everything i can for him. lately he has been doing a lot better but the issue is still there. i just don't no how i should approach this. should i wait things out? or should i just move on? ugh. any adivce?

  • Lori
    15 years ago

    Well he's not making you happy lately. So yes, something is wrong. You need to talk to him and tell him what you've seen and what's been going on. If he can't understand your feelings then he's not worth it. I do not suggest waiting things out. It will just get worse and harder to stop. If you need anything else, my PM box is always open.

  • Brittney
    15 years ago

    She doesn't really call a lot anymore. since she found out that i've been living with him she hasn't been calling as much but still when she does its the same thing.

    im gonna have to talk to him. like you though brit. im scared. i worry that he doesw want her back and that i will never be enough for him. thats the part that gets to me most...

  • Brittney
    15 years ago

    Gah, i used to wish for the day that she would call wanting her stuff back because it was just sitting in the storage closet taking up space serving as a constant reminder. then it was burned. :) haha. i was happy the day he did that.

    they had an argument which wasn't very unusually. they used to fight regularly because of his friends. she wouldnt let him hang out with any of them. he was aloud to go to work and that was it. so of course that caused problems. she always threatened to leave and finally one day he decided not to stop her.

    haha. it is kinda creepy.
    but good that some one knows what im going through on some level.

  • Brittney
    15 years ago

    Ugh. i would hate the wedding pictures. he did have all their wedding invitations in a cabniet in the kitchen and he finally got rid of all of them in the fire that day. i hate all the pictures that are around the house. ugh. i dont know. sometimes i think im going over board with it and then if i put him in my shoes he would have already flipped out by now.

    your right.
    i need to talk to him.

  • Brittney
    15 years ago

    Ugh.
    i hate guys.
    he was so irrational.
    i just dont understand.

  • Brittney
    15 years ago

    He got mad that i was even talking about it. he was like this isnt even a topic that we should have to discuss. i was trying to explain to him the way i felt and all i wanted was a little reassurance but i didnt even get that. he just went to bed.

    then last night things got even worse. we had some friends over at the house for new years and i was sitting in our room with my best friend and he came in there and called his ex and just layed in the bed for like 30 mins and talked to her like nothing had ever happened and i wasnt even in the room. ugh. its stupid. yet i get no explaination at all.

  • Misunderstood Misery
    15 years ago

    ((Just as a side note... My name is Brittany as well and I have a cousin named Jason. Lol))

  • Brittney
    15 years ago

    Im not comfortable with it either. he doesn't see that it really does bother me. i dont understand his logic through the whole situation. i dont see why he cant just tell me if he still has feelings for her. its apparent that he does but it would still be nice to hear it so that i have something to go with instead of him acting like everything is okay because its not. ugh. i just dont know.

  • Brittney
    15 years ago

    Well thanks to myspace everything is better!!!

    he saw that another guy was trying to get with me and it freaked him out especially since i wasn't home for a few days. as soon as i got home he wanted to talk and apologized for not talking before. since he has been sincerely sweet!

    :)