Immature? Or just plain upset..

My brother and I got into a big fight over the phone and we ended up not speaking for over more than a year........

Now he suddenly popped back in my life, like nothing happened and saying that he ignored me just to give me "space". To this day I always get upset when he calls. I am not ready for him to enter my life yet. Today I cried because he just called me.....

My brother is coming in early April but at the time of being, I just don't want to see him or hang out with him...

Do you consider it immature to be upset? Or is it just myself not getting over the fact that he ignored me for a year...

No, it is not immature of you to be upset whatsoever. It was immature of him as well as yourself for letting the fight come between you for so long. I say "him as well as yourself" because I don't know whether or not you tried to contact him & he ignored you, if he tried to call you & you ignored him, or if both of you ignored one another. In any of those cases, this was a two-way situation & either one of you could have made the first call.

I understand that you are upset & that you don't want to see him. The next time he calls, if he does, or if you call him, tell him how you feel. I wish you the best of luck.

It's not immature, it's hard to part with a loved one, especially a relative and then suddenly they're back in your life, I've been through the same thing, not knowing whether they're dead, alive, well, sick, happy, sad after they told you everything and talked and was so close to you.
I think you should talk to him about it, tell him how you felt in that time, ask him why he chose to do what he done, make him understand. Then at least after everything is out you can forgive each other and get back to the way you were, not all at once of course. and that's what's giving you all the insicurities and you feel that you can take him in just now, because it happened so suddenly.

I have the same question, did he ignore you for a year or did you ignore each other? Either way, he is your brother, unless it was a conflict of grand proportions, tell him how you feel and try to get over it. Life doesn't go on forever, don't waste any more of it.

I tried calling him over the year but he never picked up the phone or tried answering back the calls.....He never called me over the year..

^ wow... 30 years, I could never go that long without talking to a friend or family member. I remember one of my friends just suddenly cut contacts with me and ignored me. I started following her and calling her and stuff - you might think I became crazy stalker here but it's not that bad but I just can't let things go until I know why -
Anyway, so you say he's the one who broke the connection, talk to him about it ask him why. You need to that's the only way you could let go and start a new relationship.

My oppinion is sibling fights are always immature. I've grown up with three older brothers and through the years there's been alot of fights...

To this day, the two of my brothers that are in their 20's, we still fight and its over stupid stuff.

Whatever you're fighting about, just don't let it come between the two of you. If he's willing to move on and get past this fight, then its up to you to end the fight and forgive and get past it as well.

I don't know what the fight was about but i think that you deep down believe that the fight was his fault and that you are angry with him for not calling and apologizing for a year (which he probably has not done yet)... and just the fact that he prentends like nothing ever happened makes you even more angry.. you need to straighten things out! sit down and talk about what happened and get clouser.. only than will you be able to move on..