Does taking a gift from an ex or someone say you like them?

  • Milla
    15 years ago

    I have this ex who cheated on me like 2 months ago. yea i forgave him i have nothing against the kid. But he was saying he was gonna make it up to me. and i told him countless of times he doesnt have to. So over xmas break he said he'd buy me earrings. and i just laughed and said no buy me a necklace. just kidding and stuff.

    He texted me friday because i was wondering why he wasnt in school and he just says. "i bought you your gift" i'm thinkin oh god. he was serious. so i just asked like what? he says "Like a necklace you will really like"

    Now if i accept this. does it say i like him? cuz i'm pretty sure i don't. we have this weird thing when he isnt in school i wanna see him and when he is i kinda don't. and dating him 3 times was akward. He says he isnt sure if he likes me either. I wanna keep the gift but i don't want him to think i like him. but if its a xmas gift its cool right? i never been in this akwardness before its slightly odd.

  • Elizabeth
    15 years ago

    The blind leading the blind.

    To me, a pair of earings (or a necklace :P) could not "make up" for what he'd done, only time could & his willingness to work hard to earn his trust from me and prove himself again.

    So, did you break up but still forgave him & are now just friends? He says he's not sure if he even likes you & you say you're pretty sure you don't but it sounds like you are unclear on that yourself. If that's the case, I wouldn't accept the gift for the fact it can't make up for what he'd done, to be on the safe side because there's no guarantee that accepting it won't give him that impression & to make sure for yourself that you don't have those feelings anymore.

    Talk to him. Tell him how you feel. Get everything out in the open. That way there will be no confusion any further.

  • Lethmelodis
    15 years ago

    My personal opinion? No.

    Then again, depends on the person, the terms, and what I'm receiving.

    When it comes to the majority of my exs though, the Steve Miller song "Take The Money & Run" comes to mind.

  • Milla
    15 years ago

    I accpected the gift it actually was acute liitle cross but now he thinks i owe him something. the necklace must of been cheap and now he keeps saying i broke it. now i've made it clear i'm over him and done but he keeps trying to talk to me.
    He spends our math class together bugging me and annoying me so i told him off.
    i wish i read these sooner they would of helped alot. and one guy you make a good point. it was a object to me but its something bigger to him.

  • He is the Reason
    15 years ago

    Well if you accepted it and now he's hassling you then it clearly meant more to him then just an object so if you don't like him like you say you don't then I'd suggest you just give it back to him and tell him that it was just a gift to you but it clearly means more to him so you can't accept it. From my experiences sometimes the hardest thing, confronting a person like that, is the best way to handle it. Just give it back to him and tell him you can't accept it with the strings he has attached to it. Good luck hun with whatever you choose to do to handle it :)