Not Sure What I'm Missing...

This might sound a bit odd, it definitely does to me eh. But, I've been broken up with this guy for quite sometime. We had dated for a year and half, which was a mistake on my part. He was a liar and he dreadfully wanted to be a cheater. He tried many times, luckily for me ... with the wrong girls. I always let it go, and I knew we wouldn't work out. But, I just had false hope that he'd change. Anyway it's been quite some time since we've broken up and I lost all contact, completely, 100 percent when I broke it off with him. But, I'm starting to miss him... The thing is, I'm not sure if I'm missing him or the need to be in a relationship. I have no clue how I could possibly, truly miss someone such as him. He's the type of person I despise and wish karma on times two.

I guess what I'm wondering is ... is it really possible to miss HIM? Or do you think I'm just missing the relationship factor of it?

I mean, I don't feel the need for a relationship. I'd rather not. I honestly want to hold off on the relationship part until I'm settled in college and such. But, I guess that doesn't mean I can't miss it?

Yeah, I get what you mean. I'm the same way with my father. But, at the same time I think it's a different feeling with the ex.

Of course that very well could be from the difference in boyfriend and father. It's definitely a different emotion but I guess it has the same aspects and such.

Based on my personal past experiences, i assume that you are missing the relationship. then again, i dont know for sure what you are feeling...but just remember...he caused you pain...take some time and think thoroughly about everything.

my past experience i'm going off of was i dated my ex, Logan, 6 times...every time after 3 weeks he'd break up with me to go be with other girls...then when he was done with them, he'd come back to me. i kept taking him back because i thought i loved him...but it wasnt until the 6th time i realized i just loved having someone....it isnt exactly the same because he didnt cheat on me [as far as i know.], but he still caused me a lot of pain..

just be careful =]

I think you did good when you broke up with him.
Now, the missing thing, I think it's OK to miss him, and to miss the relationship too, it has happened to me and I know how you feel.
But, let it go.Both of the things, and the relationship factor and the guy.You will feel better, trust me.You will open your eyes and find another person to love.

I'd thought I let it go, which is what is so confusing to me.

We never broke up, other than the one time at the end of the relationship. But, I was aware of the lies and attempted cheatings through-out the relationships. It took time but he usually ended up confessing, only when he KNEW that I ABSOLUTELY, 100 percent knew he was lying. So, I thought confessions equalled change, but I realized that wasn't the case.

I've thought about it and I think it's more of the relationship than him. I've had dates and was getting kind of 'serious' with one guy at one point in time. We're still kind of dating, but it seems as if I'm not ready for the next step, yet I want it so badly

Does that make sense too? Lol.