Unhappy in a relationship?

Have you ever been in an relationship where the other person is in love but your not. You don't want to be in the relationship but you don't want to break someone's heart.

I would try to let the person down as easy as I could. but no breakup is easy

You're actually not preventing the other person from having a broken heart, unless of course you plan on staying with them out of pity for the rest of your life. Better to just get it over with so they can move on with their life and find someone who feels the same way about them. It's actually rather selfish to stay because you don't want to hurt "them", when in actuality you are doing it to save yourself the guilt of hurting them.

Ok, I know its a hard situation and you don't want to hurt him but I promise you, you aren't doing him any favors staying with him when you don't love him and don't want to be with him, thats actually meaner and hurts more then if you'd just break up with him and let him move on with his life as well as you doing the same. The longer you put it off the more it's going to hurt him when you finally do leave him and he realizes it was all a lie the entire time, believe me I've been there. It's crueler to stay with someone out of pity then to just leave them in honesty.

I'm in that type of relationship. Except I do love him, but not like I use to. He's changed and everything about him has became different. I do love him to death but I can't put up with his crap anymore!!!! I dont wanna leave him because I'm afraid it'll break his heart and I dont wanna do that!!!

Anyways I hope things get better for you!!!!

No, I told my ex when I felt different, I couldn't bear it because it was a lie saying I was happy when I wasn't. Being honest is the quickest way to get over it.

It happened to me years ago and it would eat away at me living a lie but the kindest way is to just tell the truth as the longer you stay the more it will hurt when you leave. Bite the bullet and be honest. It will hurt for a while, but a little hurt is a lot better than a lifetime of hurt.

Meh, not explaining myself well at all. haha

You don't want to break the person's heart but why lead them on? Why waste your time and their time? It's better to just let the person go than have to go through this.

You say you don't want to break someone's heart, but by continuing to lead them on in a loveless relationship (on your part) is going to break their heart even more so than if you were to just break-up with them. Why drag the whole charade on & waste their time? Let them go so they can move on with their life & actually find someone who feels the same way about them. The longer you put it off the harder it's going to be on them.

I wouldn't even call it "selfish", as in to remain in the relationship, because it's something far WORSE than selfishness since you got nothing to loose...

Yes, I have been in a relationship like that before...
The problem was that he was in love with me from the beginning...and I wasnt... But I told him from the beginning that we would try something but nothing ever worked out so I broke up with him. But I NEVER did it on purpose.