In desprate need of help

My name is Vincent. I've been dating a girl for almost six months. When we first met we just clicked. We were together a week after that, and it was going fine. I moved in with her and her roommate, and still everything was fine. Then a couple of people did some stuff and coninced her to leave me. After a week of being apart we got back together. And within two days she asked me if i wanted to get married. Foolishly I said yes. now months later, we ive in our own 2 bedroom appartment. I have met another person, and she is amazing. I love my current fiancee very much, but im not "in love" you know the firey passion in every kiss the constant need to see the other person. That hasnt been there for about a month, and now that i mat this other girl, it is there between her and i.
The girl i met has known of me for over a year. She was being told about me from 2 of our mutual friends and was falling for me before she met me. Ive talked to those friends to conferm this and they say its true. So now that she an i are together i can feel her feelings for me. I can see it in her eyes. And i feel the same way for both of them.

So now i sit here stuck loving them both, and not knowing what to do. I have talke to numerous people and they all tell me the same thing. I should not be in a relationship that makes me unhappy. I love my fiancee, i really do, its just, not as much as i used to an now i love someone else.

What do i do? how can i solve this delemma? I dont want to hurt either of them, but no matter what i choose, one or both of them will be hurt. Please help me. Please

You have only been dating for 6 months, you love her, moved in together and agreed to get married, now you have found someone else and are supposed to be in love with her as well lol I love the way the word love gets tossed around, if you fell in and out of love in 6 months it wasn't love. Maybe what you really need to do is slow down and get to know people and build real relationships before moving in and saying you love someone lol

You know, you cant control what you feel, only what you do with what you feel. I do love them, i dont use that word lightly, i say exactly what i mean

You are very right, you can't control what you feel. The problem is recognizing what you're feeling and translating it into words and actions.

I think what you're describing is LUST not LOVE. They are totally different. AND just because the honeymoon period with your fiancee has started to end, it surely shouldn't mean you love her any less?
And just because you get all warm and fuzzy inside with this other girl, does NOT mean you love her.

TRUE LOVE takes YEARS to find, it creeps up on you when you know everything about the other person. When you love their flaws and faults just as much as you love their good parts.

Somehow, I think you need to sort your head out and chose one or the other. Or neither. If you truely loved either, you would respect them both enough not to be in this situation in the first place.

remember that word; RESPECT. That's also part of being in love with someone.

God i hate being a healer. Thanks to you guys, and some helpful talk with my mother, i have figured out what is really going on.

I do love my fiancee, and well you said it im scared. I dont notice my feelings very quickly. when i do notice them, they are pretty strong, and yes i am gullible, its called trust. any how, let me explain the healer part, when ever i see a person who is in need of help, i do whatever it takes to help, even if it means getting hurt. most of the time i get feelings for the people i help. Ive always wanted to help people. thats how i am. I stick with the project until its done no matter the cost to me. Even if it is losing the one i love. and if you know the TRUE deffinition of love let me have it. here is the dicionary definition.
exerpt from webster.com

1 a (1): strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties <maternal love for a child> (2): attraction based on sexual desire : affection and tenderness felt by lovers (3): affection based on admiration, benevolence, or common interests <love for his old schoolmates> b: an assurance of love <give her my love>
2: warm attachment, enthusiasm, or devotion <love of the sea>
3 a: the object of attachment, devotion, or admiration <baseball was his first love> b (1): a beloved person : darling —often used as a term of endearment (2)British —used as an informal term of address
4 a: unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another: as (1): the fatherly concern of God for humankind (2): brotherly concern for others

i do know the definition of love. i do respect my fiancee. I just dont know everything. I want help in fixing the problem, not to be chastized for making a mistake, I was asking for advice, not critisism. I want to know how to make things better. I have my opinion, you have your opinion, and everyone else has theirs. all i wanted was to bring a different perspective to the problem. so please if all you want is to chastise me, call me a P.O.S. and all in all make me feel worse, go find another thread to post on, please, advice is what i need, not more pain. i already feel like crap because of this whole thing i dont need to feel worse.

Advice is based on opinion and experience, if you don't like the answers you get, don't post the question.

You say you know the true definition of love. When clearly...

"1 a (1): strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties <maternal love for a child> (2): attraction based on sexual desire : affection and tenderness felt by lovers (3): affection based on admiration, benevolence, or common interests <love for his old schoolmates> b: an assurance of love <give her my love>
2: warm attachment, enthusiasm, or devotion <love of the sea>
3 a: the object of attachment, devotion, or admiration <baseball was his first love> b (1): a beloved person : darling �often used as a term of endearment (2)British �used as an informal term of address
4 a: unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another: as (1): the fatherly concern of God for humankind (2): brotherly concern for others"

... is something you only QUOTED from the dictionary... Something you copied & paste.... That's sad... Love, it is something that you yourself need to define... And like Bob & Amanda said, it's not something you can find in the dictionary.

And from what you said, "most of the time i get feelings for the people i help.", are you telling us that this other girl is one of these people you "help" & the feelings "love"? If that's the case, you definitly don't know the true meaning of love & can't tell the difference. You're going to be quit the lonely boy when you get older.