I Need A Little Comforting & Advice

Hi all!
I haven't been on for the last two weeks or so because things have been very busy. I know some of you are aware that my fiance was away for 6 weeks over Christmas and New Year in Afghanistan.
Well, he was meant to be coming back on Wednesday and staying with me this weekend.

I got a call on Tuesday afternoon to say he was on his way home, which was obviously fantastic as I was missing him so much. But then his boss told me that he had been injured.
Well, it turns out he has lost his right eye, and will now be blind in one eye. He also has a dislocated wrist and a bullet wound to his stomach, ripping through the muscles.
He was in hospital until Friday, having MRI scans, CT scans etc and checking him over.
It turns out that he got a huge chunk of metal in his eye, straight through the pupil and lodged in his skull and he could also have nerve damage in his brain. We don't know yet.

They came to an arrangement to let him out and he stayed with me friday and saturday and last night, leaving this morning to go back to hospital. He was in extreme agony with the head injury and exhausted too. I am concerned for his mental welfare as he was the least injured out of his guys. 3 were killed and the others lost limbs.

Obviously, I am quite distraught, I am not letting him know, as he needs my support right now. My family have been supportive to me and my friends have been useless, not knowing what to say.
I just wanted to know if anyone had any suggestions on how to cheer him up a little as he will be in hospital for a few weeks now. I already gave him a photo of us together in a frame.

Thanks for any support. Please pray for him, and for me, but mostly for the friends and families of those men who were killed out there and were not fortunate to come home to their loved ones.

Thank you.
x

I really don't know what to say having never been in this situation. But the best thing you can do right now is shower him in love and let him know just how much you love him and are glad he's ok.

It's very sad that so many other people have died. But he didn't and he should be thankful that he still has his life to share with you. It wasn't his time to go and there was a reason for that, and who knows maybe it was you?

Be thankful you still have a life to share and just let him know you love him

I wish you luck!

Gem xx

I'm deeply sorry for what has happened. My great uncle was in Vietnam, and he still won't talk about it. The one time he did, he told me how would it feel to see your best friends die in front of you? It's something you can never really get over, but you can learn to deal with that pain. Just show him that you're there for him, and you always will be. It will be hard for him, to get through what he is going through, buthe will get through it, and remind him that you will be there with him.

Yall are in my prayers.
Sapphire

My ex (who is still a really good friend) is wanting to go into the military next year and it scares me to death for that very reason.

When we were together I tried (unsuccessfully) to change his mind about going, but he wouldn't budge. So hopefully his parents can change his mind or at least stall him for awhile.

But I understand your worry and I'll definately keep you and your finacee in my prayers.

I went through something very similar with my fiance a few months ago, different situations but more or less the same. It's very hard and it takes a lot of time. It's been almost 2 months for us and he's still healing and getting better but the pain, the emotional and mental pain, are still there. It's hard to know what to do as their girlfriends/fiancee's but all you can do it always be there for him, remind him all the time that you love him and are there, do little things to make him laugh and remember good things, make sure he knows you support him and are with him through this every step of the way and it helped my fiance, when he couldn't really stand to see himself in the mirror, I told him every chance I got that he was still amazing and breath-taking and the most handsome man I'd ever seen. All you can do is be there and support him, don't push him to talk till he's ready, when he's come to terms with it himself then he'll talk to you about it. It'll be a very long and painful road for both him and you but it'll just make your love stronger at the end. Hang in there hun, your not going through it alone.