Is love possible?

Is it possible to fall in love over the internet?

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I think love can start, but you can love someone that you never meet...you can love things ABOUT them...but you can't love them. i met my boyfriend online, and while i did love SO much about him before i met him, i couldnt have said i was in love...not until i got to know him in person to. it takes time to love someone...and that time has to be both spent together getting to know each other and by talking...i think personally that first talking to him a few weeks and really getting to know him before we met has made us much stronger then any relationship either of us have had previously.

Maybe I'm just weird but...yes, I think and know its completely possible. I've felt it, seen it, breathed it and lived it *sorry, I get going when I think about him lol* But yes, I think its completely possible. It takes a lot of work and a HUGE amount of trust but it does happen. I don't believe that the heart has to see something or smell or physically feel something to love it. It does take a lot of time and a lot of giving on both sides to make it work though. You have to be willing to be completely open, thats something I still struggle with sometimes, and you have to be willing to take a step of faith everyday and believe and trust that they are who they say they are. I don't think that just because I can't feel my boyfriend touch my face or hold my hand it makes my love for him any less than if he were here. I've had both physical relationships and online and honestly...my online one is stronger then any others I've had because of the amount of love we share for each other. But thats just me, that path isn't for everyone and everyone doesn't have to believe in it, life would be boring if we all agreed lol

I agree with hopeless romantic. i don't believe in love at first sight either. and i don't think people can show their real selves through the internet. there will be still surprises when you meet them in the real life, no matter how long you've been in touch. all the expressions, reactions on different, maybe very unnotable stuff. But I agree that love can begin on internet. I believe love isn't love at first. You get interested, then you have a crush, you like them more and more and so on. it might be different for everyone.. still i believe there are few steps before the love itself. friendship is one of them. and friendship IS possible through the net.

"i don't think people can show their real selves through the internet. there will be still surprises when you meet them in the real life, no matter how long you've been in touch."

People can surprise you and you can learn new things about them, when you know them in person as well. Many people are actually themselves online, we just don't always find or notice them lol Do I think you can find love online? Sure, you can find a lot of things online, but let's face it, you can never say 100% you are in love with the person on the other side of the screen until you meet and confirm who it is you are talking to.

Wow. I have no clue where you all are from and I'm sure glad that I'm not from there.

My knowledge may not go further than my family, friends, and their family and friends but I've never met a person to put limitations on love. Andrea Yate's Husband might have thought differently of her had he known what she did. But do you not realize SHE BORE FIVE CHILDREN before she drowned them? Just because somone slips into these horrid, murderous lives does not mean they were never able to love or be loved.

Truth is people change for reasons unknown to anyone, including themselves. In a few years one of us may fall into this horrid, murderous life ... killing people as if there were no tomorrow. But do you really think that as of today we know we will? We have some reason to believe we will? The people we love and who love us ... do you think they know what will happen down the road?

Anyone can slip into depression. Anyone can kill. Anyone can do anything ... if they let themselves go enough. And, anyone can argue with me about this ... but EVERYONE HAS A CRAZY SIDE. The thing is we have to learn to hold it in. We have to know morals and the value of life.

You can't say that someone can't fall in love online. Just because an online relationship doesn't workout doesn't mean you didn't love that person. The poster isn't asking if someone can marry someone over the internet. Obviously if the relationship goes that far they're going to meet and hopefully love one another as they thought they did. But, it's more than possible to fall in love with what you guys are calling 'words'.

But, you must realize that this life revolves around words. Though what we say and what we do are completely different - what we say means a heck of a lot. No one can argue with that.

Most everyone has fallen in love with words. Be it online or not. And, everyone chooses their own love, who they end up with. And, it's up to you. It's up to the person you love.

I guess that it is possible 2 get 2 know some1 and love who they r. I think that it would be a heck of a lot harder but yeah, sure I think so.

"i don't think people can show their real selves through the internet. there will be still surprises when you meet them in the real life, no matter how long you've been in touch."

^^True, there will still be little things that you don't know about them online that you'll find out about them in person but thats true with everyone, people that you've known for years in person and still surprise you. Thats how human relationships work, we're always learning new things about the people we interact with.

"People can surprise you and you can learn new things about them, when you know them in person as well. Many people are actually themselves online, we just don't always find or notice them lol"

^^Thank you lol You're very right.

Actually its really surprising how real some people can be online, some are actually more real online then face to face. I've been dating my boyfriend online for almost 1 and 1/2 years, I haven't met him in person yet, we're still working on that, but he knows me better than I know myself most days. He can tell what I'm going to do before I do it, he knows how I feel and more times then not what I'm thinking without me telling him and without being able to hear my voice all the time or see my expressions. He knows most of my little quirks that make me who I am and he knows me better then most people that have spent years around me. I find it hard to believe that people can't truly know each other and truly love each other online, I live proof that they can. And as Bob put it, not being able to touch or see each other makes you work harder on being able to discuss things and talk things out, it makes it so you have to depend and trust each other more then you normally would. It can make your level of commitment stronger as well, not that I'm saying that normal, physical relationships are weaker or easier or anything like that. But love is just as real and strong and true no matter where you found it.

Wow. thanks for the feedback guys. lots of heated discussions.. i got a lot more responses than i thought would.

I met the love of my life online.
Obviously we met in person,but love at first sight exists.I knew he was the one within 5 minutes. It depends on the people,love is love.
It's all what you feel, just go with it& don't be scared of the unknown.

Why not take a different view?
There are clear evidence of love, on this site even, for not just love of a lover but of a friend. The name Elisabetta holds a lot of love for some. Some of whom only knew her as she was on this site. I'm not one of those that shared this love..so take it as an objective view.

It is always possible. .

Love is possible anywhere it doesnt matter if it is on the internet or in person no one can tell you how you feel

Love is possible everywhere and anywhere. just wait and the right person will come along. every once in awhile you will fall for some fakes that will break your heart, well when that happens bounce back and try again. keep trying until you find that special someone that makes you heart soar. Shanik

I believe that you can fall in love over the internet if you are truely being youself and so is the other person. As long as you both are being completly honest about your selves, you beliefs, things you like, dont like. ect. it is possible. But i believe also that you cant truely say you know that they are being honest untill you meet them in real life. Because if they are lying then you can be in love yes, but you are in love with the person they pretended to be, not the real them.
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I guess I would say that it doesn't really matter. Whatever you feel is what you feel. If you feel you love that person then go ahead, no one should stop you from feeling something even though you've never met the person. I could say that dating online maybe a little bit out of the question, because the most important part of a relationship is trust, online you're going to need a lot of it due to the fact that you're not physically with them to share the love, but in reality love can be felt in may ways.

Yes I believe that..

Hmm, I don't know...

I don't think you can really fall in love if the relationship is primarily online based. If you just emailed and IMed each other and that's it, then no I don't think you can fall in love because you don't really know him/her. You would just be falling for his/her words. If you met online and started talking on the phone and what not, then yeah I believe you could fall in love.

I dunno i think that you would have to spend one on one time to fall in love, but it could be or it could be lust but you're the only one that knows if you really are in love

I don't believe in "love at first site", therefore an internet relationship doesn't really apply. Haha.

But seriously. In my opinion, I can see falling in love with someone THROUGH the internet in time as a possibility but not "over" it.

Over the internet people can lie about their age, their sex, their looks, their personality, their interests, their beliefs and, basically, their life as a whole. Much like Amanda said, they can be whoever you want them to be! And even if they aren't the type of person to lie to you about who they are & their life, there are just so many things you don't know about them for the simple fact you don't truly know them. When you actually get to meet the person & spend time with them it gives you the opportunity to see for yourself who they are & not just what they tell you about themselves; how they treat others, how they treat themselves or how they act when they don't think anyone is around. To me, to say that you love someone you've never met is ridiculous. I can believe you love them to an extent, but once you get to meet them & spend time with them can you truly appreciate & learn to love them wholeheartedly for who they are inside & out; body, mind & soul.

How you go about meeting others over the internet, I believe, makes all the difference. For example: There are specific websites dedicated to helping you meet new people safely. From there you can choose to continue to speak online, take things further over the phone & even sometime down the road schedule to meet up somewhere for a date. This gives you a chance to grow from mutual interest, to a crush & then to love.

I think that for adults that it is possible & acceptable. You're older, more mature, more experienced & responsible for yourself. But for the young; young teenagers, I don't think it is possible or acceptable because as "mature", "experienced" and "responsible" as any 13, 14, 15 or so year old considers themselves to be they aren't. They are still a naive, ignorant child and are still dependent on others.

Though of course, this is just my opinion. I wouldn't actually really know if falling in love "over" the internet is possible because I'm already in a serious, steady, mature & committed relationship, I hadn't been foolish enough to try online dating when I was younger and even if I weren't in a relationship I never would. It's just not for me. To me, I don't just want to know who they are from what they tell me about themselves I want to see for myself who they are; how they treat others, how they treat themselves or how they act when no one else is around. That way, I can appreciate & learn to love them wholeheartedly for who they are inside & out; body, mind & soul.

In conclusion, I do believe that a person can fall in love... however, not "over" the internet but rather THROUGH it... in time.

We live and love the illusion, whether it be words or pictures or bodies or actions. Love is when we're deluded enough to believe it's real, or when we are able to accept our delusion.

It's a wonderful feeling.