Mixed Signals

So three days ago, my (now ex) boyfriend Josh broke up with me after we got into an arguement about him talking to some other girl. It's not that she was female, no, it was because I was threatened by her. I knew she was interested in him and I was afraid he would be for her too. So he broke it off... saying I was too controlling and jealous and that we argue and fight too much.

About an hour after that, he asked out the girl that the whole arguement started over. She said yes. They became a perfectly happy couple and he said he was the luckiest person in the world. But then he starts talking to me and his friends.. telling us that he really doesn't wanna be with her, that he was going insane without me and so he asked her out to keep his mind off me, was being sarcastic when he said he was the luckiest person to have her, etc.

I was ignoring him at the time so I decided to talk to him again. Cause despite of what happened, I still wanted to be with him. And I knew he did me too cause he was asking people for advice on how to get me back, who should he be which.. which 6 out of 7 said with me. And admitted he still loved me.

So as soon as I start showing that I care, he pulls away. Saying he's too scared to be with me, he thinks if we get back together, it'll be the same crap, and that we've broken each other's hearts too much. But he still wants us to be friends so he can have me in his life somehow.

I told him I couldn't do it. I tried. But it isn't fair to me. To watch him be lovey lovey with some other girl when he KNOWS how I feel. And have to sit there acting like I'm happy when I know I can never have him again? No. I told him I wasn't going to and he shouldn't except me to. That just friends was too much for me to handle emotionally right now.

But this morning... he sat down beside me. We were alone. I wouldn't look at him but I knew he was staring at me. All of a sudden I look over and he's CRYING his eyes out and talking about how hard it is, etc. I felt bad but I kept my guard up. After I told him how I feel, he hugged me and said maybe someday we can be friends and went to class. So he texts me.. asking if he can see me after class. We meet up and he'd be leaning even closer to me everytime I looked at him. I knew he wanted to kiss me so I said bye fast and ran to class.

I get a text that period... asking if he can at least have a good bye kiss..... Oh and btw his girlfriend goes to another school so she knows nothing about this. But she does know about me.... ugh. I dunno what to do. Please give me some advice here.

Whether he actually still likes you or is just trying to play you. DON'T kiss him! first off.. He's still with another girl, even though she did you wrong, don't do it back. Don't take part and make him think that after him and his little girlfriend break up that he can come crawling back to you. My opinion i would just not even talk to him anymore. He doesn't know what he wants and needs some growing up to do.. Don't torture yourself by doing what he asks. Just let it cool off for a while, and by a while i mean a month or so. Don't let him walk all over you because he thinks he made a mistake. He sounds like a player to me. Just my opinion and advice, not trying to be harsh

He asked out another girl an hour after he dumped you because he was going insane without you? Do you have sucker written on your face somewhere? All I would have to say to him is too bad, so sad, catch ya later. Obviously this girl is someone you should have been worried about, now worry about finding your self respect and don't let this boy pop in and out of your life every time some girl he thought was better, turns out not to be.

Wow, that was a lot. Umm, I'm pretty sure he wanted to be with that girl but it's probably not what he expected the relationship to be. But if he didn't really like the girl and really love you he should at least break up with the other girl. He has you on a leash where he can string you around incase his relationship doesn't work out, he'll probably come to you as a rebound. Don't kiss him! MOVE ON!

Teenage romance maybe your thing..but try not to worship it and define life by it. Years later, you'd likely look back and see how foolish you've been...or maybe not...

Mixed signals? Just hormones I think haha..

Well... okay so after school yesterday...

He cried two more times. Once just by me looking at him. The other was when I told him that something seriously needed to change cause I was sick of him crying every time he looked at me. So he cried again.

Okay... so we were just standing there. Talking. I told him I couldn't do this crap. It was too much on me and I didn't need it. And out of nowhere, he kissed me. I just stood there in total shock cause I wasn't expecting it. He pulled away.. did it again. I pushed him off that time. I started towards my bus and I guess I looked hurt (but I wasn't going to cry) and he was like,"No Kayla. Don't cry." and he pulled me to him like really fast and kissed me. AGAIN.

And now he's saying that he wants there to still be something between us.. and if it gets to be too much, he'll break up with this other girl. I told him I wasn't gonna be anything to him. He still won't stop texting tho.

Well if you want to get him out of your system then dont relpy back to the text ... Simple he knows that he can get you if he tried... Don't let it happen... Your headin the right way

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Thank you very much. I am trying.

So.. I've considered telling his girlfriend about the kissing me and all the things he's been texting me, but I decided not to. Because I am his ex-girlfriend, I doubt she'll even believe me in the first place. She prolly would just think I was jealous and was trying to break them up so I could have him again. Which isn't the case at all. I just wouldn't want him doing those things if he was still with me.

"And now he's saying that he wants there to still be something between us.. and if it gets to be too much, he'll break up with this other girl."

Emotional prick..and that's exactly what he wants between you (pun intended :P)..guys like that don't deserve any of you. You're worse than him if you go along with it in full awareness of what he's doing. I think the girlfriend should know..but that's up to you. Whatever you do, make sure it's nothing to do with this guy.

Yeah i agre you SHOULD let the gf know. && you have proof of those text messages if you kept em.
you had your proof you whow it to her, its upt o them what happens next she believe you or not.
After that blank them both out of your life.

Kay it sounds like he's playing you
*shrugs*