HELP PLEASE! URGENT!

Okay so my really good friend has a boyfriend.... I really like him I don't want to lose her as a friend but I've never liked anyone like this before. A bunch of us are going on a trip tommorow and their both going he made a effort to tell me he wants to hang out with me, I know he likes me and they are not going to last they fight ALL the time. I really like him and I'm just not sure what to do. Any advive would be appreciated. Thanks.

Thank you for being honest
and your right I'm being a terrible friend
It just sucks right now there both really miserable with each other and I have to hear about that from both of them
I've really been trying to be a good friend because he has told me he likes me before but I told him no way
I'm just really confused

I know and your right
thanks for the reality check.
I'm gonna have a talk with them both and then I'm gonna back off of him totally

Don't do it.

I agree with what everyone has said.
You considering this means you aren't being a friend.

I do not agree...
you must follow your heart
do you feel infatuation for this guy... or do you truly feel a connection that truly makes you happy?
your friend must realize that maybe there is potential for you and her boyfriend...
unless this is just a mindless crush...
anyway if you truly feel LOVE or some sort of connection that makes you feel like you need him...
i would go for it.
a true friend would be upset for a while... but ultimately understand that love is important...
and she and the guy did not have love
they just had an aggressive relationsip.

^^ I couldn't agree anymore with the two of you. I especially like what you said Amanda, "Be sure to keep hold of your man because by your theory you'd be ok with another women taking him just because she likes him." Ba-zing! LOL!

I wonder if she ever practices what she preaches?

Wow... Suggesting & condoning that she try to steal someone else's boyfriend... Yeah, not only wouldn't that make her a friend but also something worse...

Her friend is supposed to realize "potential" for her and her boyfriend? What the hell? If she didn't like him she wouldn't be with him.

I like how you assume to think just because the poster says that the couple fight a lot that that means they don't have feelings for one another. You, as well as the poster, don't know that.

You obviously don't know the true meaning of friendship or how to be one.

^ Straight from the horses mouth.

There was one incident, not too long ago, where one of my "best friends" had used me in her plot (as she refers to it) to get revenge on another one of my best friends (who had been hers at one point too). This other friend had told her he didn't want hang out with her anymore because he was tired of the way she treated him. In anger, she decided to send text messages to me (and who knows how many other people) telling me that he liked me, wanted me to break up with my boyfriend and, basically, demeaned his character in the worst possible ways... I, of course, didn't believe her from the start and when I told my boyfriend he didn't believe her either. I'd asked her how she knew this, she said his best friend & the person he confides in told her to which I had to laugh considering I am his best friend & that he tells me things that he doesn't even tell his own sister or mother. Right from the beginning all the lies just kept piling up & in the end her plot back-fired on her. She later admitted to lying... I do not consider her my best friend anymore. She appears to have no regrets, for she has made no apologies to anyone & had laughed about it like a joke. I hope it was worth it.

Unless u and ur friend talk about it and she accepts, then there is nothing else u can do... just leave him until they break up...

Just wait. Dont try breaking them up or admitting things now because if you do get with him, it will add guilt to the mixture of feelings and probably isnt a good grounding for the begining of a relationship.

(posted b4 I meant to) also I love and value my best friend and wouldnt dream of stealing her man even if I liked him. You need to think here who is more important. Because many boyfriends will come and go but a true friend is for keeps, is she worth losing over a man that would happily swap back and forth between you both. I think that you need to have a long hard think about this even after they have broken up, put yourself in her shoes hun.

Like previously stated, stay out of it. If they are fighting, that's there buisiness. Even if your friend comes crying to you, she just wants comfort at the time. If you end up breaking them up, you will lose her friendship. Even if she forgives you for it, things will NEVER go back to the way they were.

I know this, because that's exactly what my supposed best friend did to me. I forgave her, because I don't hold grudges, but I will never trust her again.

Support her when they fight, don't give her advice, because it will be biased because of your feelings for her boyfriend. Just be there for her. Guys are a dime a dozen, but a true friend is hard to find.

~BJ~

It can be difficult to restrain your feelings, but sometimes you just have to.

Ask yourself what you value mroe. If you can't decide an answer to that in less than 3 seconds, you're hopeless.

Whoa...Leave your friends boy alone, put yourself in her shoes.

whether or not you have ever felt like this before it's not okay and i'm sure your friend would feel the same way..I can't imagine if my friend did that to me i'd be pretty mad at her, but let things go the way they go and you should probably stay out of it.

Oh and another thing..if he's doing it to her is he gonna do it to you?
not enough people look at it that way if he's willing to go behind his girlfriends back and talk to you what makes you think he's not going to talk to one of your friends behing your back?

"Oh and another thing..if he's doing it to her is he gonna do it to you?"

^ Very good question. It's one, much like you said, people seem to ignore.

Agreed.