I'm SO confused!! Advice??

So I have this teacher, male, and he likes me....
I mean like like...
So I'm not sure what to do...
It's kinda awkward,
But he doesn't know I know.
And I don't understand why he likes me.
He's not really a teacher... more of a helper.
But he's way older than me.

^ I agree. Just ignore it, don't let him know you know. You're 14, it's against the law. If he says anything to you about it, remind him that it's against the law both for him as an adult & a teacher. If he does or says anything inappropriate, report him to the principal, your parents & the police.

Wellll,,, he's 18 so I guess it would be illegal, but I don't really want to report him. Since,,, I kinda like him, too.

^ That's exactly what I was going to say.

The way you talked, it sounded like he was in this 30's. Although at 18 he is still an adult & you a minor.

Because I just want to know what I should do about him, like confront him or just keep it a secret. I still want to be his friend.

^haha, harsh, but true. i'd just wait it out...

LOL wow I'm not that lonely lol. Ummm... And I wouldn't tell ANYBODY. I wasn't even going to post it on here, but nobody knows me so whatever. And I wouldn't even tell my best friend. And I don't really have anyone to tell. And I am so not going to confront him with the authorities!!! It's four years. My last gf and I were four years apart. And he just turned 18. Also, I break the law all the time so... what's different? And they're really not that strict about it. And it's only illegal when you're having sex. Which I wouldn't, no offense to him or anythin.

"Which I wouldn't, no offense to him or anythin."

^ He's not here. Go ahead. Haha

A lot is spelled with a space...
What gaps? Just ask I'll answer... and I heard it from him, I wasn't supposed to hear. I actually wish I hadn't. And I guess he's told other people, I'm guessing only one though. But maybe more... cuz he was on the phone and I was kind of some where I shouldn't have been and I was hiding in the cloak room. Other long story there... and I was kind of ease dropping.

Even if he IS 18, you are obviously not mature enough to be with him, even if it weren't against the law. you need to remember laws were made for a reason, don't break them unless you want to face to the consequences, because one day you will get caught and punished.

just ignore this before you get him arrested! if you like him, you'd do what's best for him in the long run and leave it alone so he has a better future!

I have faced the consequences...
And really, I don't think I'm that immature.
The whole cloak room thing is a whole other story, quite confusing.
And I can't really get him arrested.
It's practically impossible.
I can easily leave it alone.
I'm just kind of worried if he says something...
What do I say back?
It's not like I love him, he's just an awesome guy.
But I never would have guessed he liked me since we hang out outside of school...
But now it's just going to be kind of awkward.
Precieve...

If he says anything to you about it then be like sorry buddy you work ay my school and I dont want to involve myself in anything like that I mean unless you want to. You're 14...you shouldnt be worrying about 18 year olds cause honestly theyre not thinking about a loving relationship with 14 year olds...only one thing is on their brain and you mentioned you're not going to have sex with him so there you go. Just be on friends terms with him unless you want it to get messy.

Well... I'm pretty sure we're not going to be having a "relationship" in school other than friends...
I don't want a "loving relationship" I just want to hang out with him like I used to. I just don't want him bringing it up. And no he didn't use my full name, just my first. And I don't think I'm an adult, I just know I'm really not that immature. Really you don't know me, so don't bother arguing about it.

Lol... ButI am the only one with this name, since there's only 40 kids in my school. At first I really had no clue he was talking about me but then he said that I go to his school... so yeah. There's really not that many people with my name... but I thought it might have been a nickname for someone..

No, it's not a regular name, and it's an aternative school so yeah.

There's two grades, 9 and 10 and there's two classes with 17 students in each.

And I don't know, I don't really want to stay away from him. I just want things back to normal, I thought we were friends. I've known him for a year now... it's just weird though.

What excuses? There's not one excuse for anything...
And I'm pretty sure I know enough about the law, my dad's a cop... and my sister's a lawyer. So I'm pretty sure I know even more than you do.

^ Um, no. Probably not. Wait, make that definitly not.

And the bit about you "breaking the law all the time" as you say... I'm sure your father & sister really approve of that (note the sarcasm).

Definitly not what?

Well... my sister relly doesn't care, and my dad thinks it's fine

"So I'm pretty sure I know even more than you do."

^ That's why definitly not. Just because your father's a cop & sister's a lawyer doesn't mean you do know more. And you definitly do not demonstrate that you do.

It's not (so much) the age gap that's dangerous, it's the difference in position. You may have been friends with him before, but so long as he's in an authoritarian position compared to you, it will lead to trouble. Even if his actions aren't enough to get him arrested, they probably ARE enough to get him fired, and possibly compromise his reputation for years to come. Is it worth it? If you want to be friends, keep it within an appropriate school setting. If not, let it go.

Actually... I did read what my sister was studying. And I don't think he seems to care about his job.

"I break the law all the time, that's all fine and dandy for you, but this involves another person and their career, not to mention their life being labeled as one contributes to the delinquency of a minor or the negative well being of one. He likes you, you like him, no sex, just petting is enough to get him jailed."

"The excuses are why would you put him in the position to even get in trouble. If you profess to know the LAW as well as you do then you should have known from the beginning you shouldn't associate yourself with this guy. Given the circumstances that he's 18 and your not considered an adult yet. Someone could report him and even if he didn't go to jail chances are you and he probably messed his future career up. Would you want to be that person to do that to his career. Mind you it's his own fault as well but if you want the chance to be mature.. here it is. Walk away and don't speak with him again."

^^ Both the strongest points in this threads & most important questions.

"And I don't think he seems to care about his job."

^ You THINK isn't a good enough reason.

-he doesn't seem to care if he gets fired
-he has had a relationship with another student
-nothing happened
-I am definitly not going to stop talking to him

Okay, then how bout I KNOW he doesn't care about it.

"-he doesn't seem to care if he gets fired"

^ I like how you tried to make points...

First you said you THINK he doesn't. Now you say that he doesn't, as if a matter of fact. You clearly said that he SEEMS to be, yet still again meaning that you don't know that. Simply changing words doesn't change a thing.

"What type of law is your sister studying?" I'll ask her when she gets home

"So you'll have to excuse me if I have trouble believing a naive 14 year old who says what all teens do and that's essentially "I know it all"." hmm... I don't know it all. And I'm not most teenagers. You'll probably say "that's what they all say" or something like that. And I'm not going to ask you to trust me on that..

"And I'm not most teenagers. You'll probably say "that's what they all say" or something like that. And I'm not going to ask you to trust me on that..."

^ Then how about stepping off your high horse.

"Your story keeps on getting bigger and bigger" No it doesn't.
"You said to us that no one knew about him liking you and now all of a sudden your dad and sister knows?" No, they don't know and I never said thay did.
"He's had relationships with other students! Wow.. sure then that makes everything ok doesn't it." I said that becausethat's how I know he doesn't care if he gets fired.
"What you said right there convinces me even more so that he is a SICK individual and deserves to be locked up." Yeah... okay then.

Yeah I don't get it.

"Yeah I don't get it."

^ Then you never will.

Obviously this was a pointless thread, since your not getting the answers you want. Clearly you are ignorant & nothing anyone says will help that.

Might as well lock it.

"Yeah I don't get it." I mean your last post. Actually, the end of your last post.
"Clearly you are ignorant & nothing anyone says will help that." No, I'm not that ignorant. An you people don't seem to be answering the only question I wanted answers to.

"An you people don't seem to be answering the only question I wanted answers to."

^ No. We did. Or at least others have. But obviously they're just not what you want to hear.

And as I can recall, as I can clearly see, in your first post you had no question to begin with. Therefore, no one was able to know what to possibly answer you with. It wasn't until a few posts later that you asked what to do with him or about him. And you did get an answer for that. Obviously not one you want to hear. Any more questions?

I actually wanted to know what to do if he says anything bcause I still want to be friends with him. Just not more than friends, even if I do like him. I like him a lot better as a friend.