Bestfriends who like the same guy. Eck.

OK so im in a highschool spare me i'm allowed to have immature drama if i feel like it. but it isnt drama so we are good. ok. I know everyone has had this happen when you and your good friend like the same guy. It has happen to me...5 times...and each time i have lost horribly and i end up crying in the bathroom....not really but thats ok.

anyhow the last time this happened was like 4 months ago and me and 2 of my friends liked the same guy. duh only one got him...what a shame but that other firned who didnt get him either, never ever told me how she felt cuz she knew i was a crazy for this guy. Now we both like the same guy...AGAIN! but this time i demanded that she tell me cuz i wanted to make sure i wouldnt repeat the last issue.

Now i'm correct on saying that neither of us get him cuz 1) we both like him and 2) i actually know.
thats fair right? i'm not crossing anylines. i mean surely there will be other guys in the future so i cant get caught up. BUt whats your thoughts. is it still fair game? should i act like my other friends who didnt care if i got hurt? just your thoughts.what would you do? girl or guy.

Honestly, i dont know anything about your boy history or anyhthing but it doesnt sound to me like your friends and you are competing, you just like the same kind of guy. that has happened to me before. one of my really good friends dated a guy i was sooooo crushing on for a year. but honestly, i think you shouldnt make rules at all. you know she likes him and she knows you do as well. its just a boy. you dont love him but if you are good friends with this girl then you luv her and wnat to see her happy. let her have him. there will be more guys and chances are taht it wont work out between them anyways. its high school. if he wants to date her, let it happen. she will be happy and that should be good with you cuz its your friend. if he wants to date you, she should notice the same thing and not make a big deal about it... its not a game, just let it go. dont make it a huge deal. be good friends to eachother and dont let this boy be a problem.

This type of situation has occurred 5 times already... Didn't you learn anything the first time, or even the second or third (they say the third times a charm)?

I find it incredibly immature of you & pathetic that you think it is all a game, that you're in a competition with your friend & refer to this boy like a trophy.

What if this guy doesn't even like you? What if he likes your friend? Does he not have a say? It appears he is nothing more than just a trophy to you (an "it" as you called him). After the game has ended; a "loser" & "winner" have been declared, what do you plan on playing next? Who will be the next contestant? Who will be the next trophy?

I find it downright & outright hilarious you tried to make up rules; that you said since both of you like him that neither of you should get him. Then, right after you'd said that you ask, "Is it still fair game?" Was there really a need to make the rules if you were planning to bend them for or break them anyways for yourself?

I think it'd be best for you to forget about the boys and start acting like & learning how to be a better friend; not just to others but to yourself. This, this is just petty.

^They're all right^ It's not cool for you and your friends to be fighting over a guy. Rules between friends on relationships? Really??? When will everybody get over all these dating rules a crap? So what, you and you're friends like the same guy. If he likes either of you then let what ever happens happen. Find a different guy.

The funny thing with all your replys is 1) they are corret but 2) they arent.

I could go on a rant on how you are all so quick to judge some topics. but i need not to explain myself when you all so quick to come up with your own interpitation of something you made bigger then what i wrote.

were not fighting.
there isnt drama.
and im sorry if the "rules" offend you but they are there. and sometimes going by those "rules" makes life alittle better. nor i need to work on being a better friend. im not nor havent stepped on anyone to gain a guy on my hip and i wont. so hint why i denied the guy who asked me out. i had this issues 5 times and i was always the girl who got rejected why would i do that to someone else? does no one see that? im proud of having that issue repeated so i wouldnt make the mistakes as other people. theres a point in time where doing what makes you happy is good but over a guy? nah i'll pass. where did all this "her happiness" come from? who said the guy liked her or me? i just said we liked the same dude doesnt mean we were clawin at eachothers eyes for him.

amanda if this is how you got your fiance and it worked out well then i'm happy for you but to me to an extent its not worth it. i rather keep losing some guy to other girls then to hurt someone who was like me. idk. you all have points but im not even that deep in what use to be

Your right it is truth but it isnt and same with what i replied with. Trust if you knew me in person you'd know that im actualy more mature beyond my years but i'm allowed to dabble in "petty" issues. but what gives any of us the right to decide whats petty to whom?

This topic is prob going to get locked because someone finds it "petty" but it must not be if other people are having the same one. No one is going to deal with it the right way. because to someone else the right way is the wrong way. We can be told to "focous on school" or "ignore it all" but i'm not i apologize im not. and thats fine. but me having this whatever doesnt make me mature or not. it makes me just as human as anyone else.

"and im sorry if the 'rules' offend you but they are there."

^ That didn't make a lick of sense. Are they written somewhere on paper, with signatures, for all to follow? I find it hilarious that you refer to these "rules" or yours like something from the Charter of Rights and Freedoms; as if they're legit.

"This topic is prob going to get locked because someone finds it 'petty' but it must not be if other people are having the same one."

^ It means that there are other people in the same petty situation as you who need to grow up.

RULES?? lol..
I sayyy.. Just do what you do..
NO DUMB RULES..
Be a good friend. You know what's right and
what's wrong..
And just let things happen how they happen..

Please don't let this be an issue..
do NOT fight over a guy.
Reallyy not worth it.

Lol

It seems to be as you are treating this situation like a game. If you got hurt five times before then obviously you know how it feels for your friend to stab you in the back. So why make YOUR friend feel that way just because you wanna compete with her && get the boy. boys are not worth that much trouble. So I suggest to just leave it be. You are still young You have many years ahead of you to find a boyfriend. Most of the time high school sweethearts dont last anyways so dont waste your time

I say you need to talk to your friend about it and see what she says. Tell her you like him, but you wouldn't want to lose her friendship. I've had situations like this...They aren't fun and sometimes they end up bad, but just try to work things out with her