My boyfriend has Aspergers

  • MorbidCupcake
    15 years ago

    My boyfriend has Aspergers syndrome, which doesnt matter much, but it makes everything harder. He was all excited to go out with me, and i really like him, but he cant talk to me when im around other people and he stays 4 feet away from me at all times. I feel bad because I know its because of his Aspergers, its not really a relationship if you barely talk in person and cant be around the person. Im trying to cope with it, but I make him so nervouse Im not sure if this whole relationship thing is a good idea. I dont wanna hurt him but Im not sure its gonna work out and theres no way I can break up with him without looking like a jerk. Its not his fault that he has Aspergers, but Im miserable and panicing. What do I do?

  • Beautiful Chaos
    15 years ago

    You knew going in it was not only going to be different, it was going to be a little harder or at least you should have. All you can do is speak honestly and explain it is about you, which basically it is. You don't have to be a jerk about it and the 2 of you can still talk. If you can't hack it, you owe it to him to be honest and leave the relationship.

  • Starlight
    15 years ago

    Oh boy do i have stories, i don't think there's anything wrong about someone standing 4 feet away from people? and if you do then that makes me feel bad lol

  • Tiny Reader
    15 years ago

    Can I ask how long have you known this person? You clearly care a lot about him - a relationship at 16 is hard enough under any circumstances, but coping with something like Aspergers syndrome is an additional strain for both of you.
    If you are doubting the strength of the relationship due to this, then maybe first concentrate on being his friend. You say he can't talk to you when you're around other people but how are things when it is just the two of you? You need to know how he feels about the situation as well.

    I don't know all of the details and even if I did I don't think I, or anyone else for that matter, should tell you what to do. It's easy to turn around and say you're young and should move on, but only you know what is right for you. Hope everything works out ok for both of you.