No longer pure

My best friends boyfriend of 4 years asked her to marry him about 2 months ago. They wanted to wait another 2 years until marriage but my friend believed in not having sex before marriage and that became a conflict. Finally she let her fiance talk her into have pre-marital sex with him. two days later he texted her and told her that he couldn't marry her because she was no longer pure. I feel so bad for her but I have no idea how to react to such an outrage. What should I tell her?

I knew the end of your story before you even got to it sadly. Instead of trying to tell her something, just listen and be there, I would hope if she is really your best friend the words will flow naturally once you see how she is feeling and what direction all of this is taking her. Getting engaged @ 16 (I assume you are the same age) the odds are not in your favor and some nice words from a boy, whether you have been together 4 days or 4 years, shouldn't break down her belief so easily.

I would totally go up to that bastard and kick his butt!! What on earth?! HE is the only one she's had sex with, so what on earth is he talking about?!

I'd tell her that she's way better than him and even though it hurts like hell right now, it will get better. She's better than him, she loves him and if he would have really loved her, he would have married her, no matter what. I'd tell her he isn't worth her, and she might not want to hear, but there's loads more boys who respect her.

I wish her and you the best.

"pureness is developed within the heart and soul, not between the legs.......when we get to that point or that way of thinking we are all impure.....her actions, though demeaning to herself, were of pure intent because she did them out of her love for him"

^ I full heartedly agree.

It's sad to hear that she gave herself, more so was convinced to despite her belief & morals, away so easily. But what's more sad is to hear that she'd done so out of love and this boy had the gull to tell her that he couldn't marry her because she was "impure"... He should take a long, hard damn look in the mirror and see if anyone or anything is staring back...

The best thing I think you could do for her is to just be there; let her know that you will be there & will listen to whatever she has to say. If she asks for advice from you or you decide to talk to her about it, as a friend I think that the words would come naturally to & from you.

Well she should of not force him to do that. She should respect him for what he do. If that's not what he wants to do, then let him live. Loosing your virginity at first is really important and I'm guessing it was important to him, so he wanted to wait for the perfect time which was after marriage but your friend blew it and tried talking to him into doing it. Which is a NO!! No!!

^ Apparently you didn't read very carefully. It was the other way around. He talked her into it.

A really harsh way to lose your virginity, her first time should have been special. I can't understand why he would do that! thats just cruel, and what does he mean "impure" she done it with him if it was someone else it would be ok, but it was him. This guy seriously needs some slaps.
Well anyway back to your question, you can't reverse time, so all you could do for her now is be there tell her at least she knew what a pig he was before she got married to him, tell her he doesn't deserve her, that in the end he will be the lonely one and she'll be drowning in love with a person who will actually respect her.