Is it weird? or am i just being weird about it?

I posted a topic not to long ago about me and alex..He's a really good guy and i always have fun with him. I'm 16 he's 18 and I care a lot about him and he says the same to me. He tells me he doesnt really like PDA..(public display of affection) so when were at our friends house and a bunch of people are over he's not really affectionate and if we kiss he takes me outside or something.. And I thought maybe he doesn't want other girls to see or something, but he does it even when it's just me and the boys.

my question: is this weird that he does this? do you think there is some weird reason behind this maybe or is do you think he is just being sincere in saying "i really just don't like PDA" and he just likes to keep things private?

I think he is being sincere, and in a way being like, I don't want to share what we have with anyone. even PDA

I agree. I think he's trying to be sincere. Things like hugging and kissing are meant to be special. I can understand you thought though. It probably gives you more comfort when he hugs and kisses you around his friends too.. Like he's proud; "LOOK THIS IS MY GIRL"- sort of feeling.
But, anyway.. don't think too much of it, I would say. He probably just likes to keep those things special =]

Well, I don't know your boyfriend personally let alone at all, but it definitly sounds like he's just bashful. I'm sure that he is just being genuinely sincere. Like said above, don't think too much into it. Although I do understand why you would.

Every guy; every person, is different. Some liking to keep things private & some who are willing to let the whole world know. And there's nothing wrong with either (although with "PDA" there are limits, if you know what I mean, simply because what PDA constitutes to one person may be different to another). What you & your boyfriend have is special. And besides, things change; people change; he could change.

My boyfriend is not afraid or embarrassed to give me a kiss or hug me, hold hands or waists as we walk in public as well as I'm not afraid to either. Why should we? We don't do it for recognition from others, we do it for each other; out of love for one another.

It's funny you brought this up, because I was just going to make a post about PDA.

I think it's safe to assume that he just doesn't like them. Personally, I'm not a fan. It has nothing to do with my boyfriend, I just think that private things should be private. It's nto a big deal. As long as there is private displays of affection, don't let it bother you.

"As long as there is private displays of affection, don't let it bother you."

^ Nice word play. :)

Yeah, I definitly agree that PDA has its limits, if you know what I mean, simply because what PDA constitutes to one person may be different to another. For example: Once, a couple friends & I were going to meet up at the park. One of my friends brought her "boyfriend" along and the entire time we were there the two of them were lip 'n hip locked. It was both rude & awkward at the same time. My other friend & I decided we were going to go home. The couple didn't even notice we left or that we'd told them we were going... And that right there, I think, is the line being crossed. Not only because what they were doing should be done privately but also because she'd ignored her friends.

I remember one day my boyfriend & I were walking around town, naturally holding hands. A friend of mine, who was driving by yelled out her window, "Hey you! No PDA!" I knew she was only fooling around and laughed about it. What's so wrong about holding hands? Nothing, as far as I'm concerned. And as for other couples who simple just kiss, hug or hold hands I'm not going to judge them; think of them as being nasty or what they're doing wrong.

When a person thinks about PDA, is the only thing that comes to mind about it sexual? Is it something that's only exchanged between lovers? Why not look at it in a deeper meaning; look at the words?

^ And walk away! Haha

"Sluvy, the people I see are kids, sitting in a Mcdonalds on each others lap, and you can see the saliva between the two. Thats what I think is nasty. Lol"

Your wording is immaculate.

Thank you very much :]
this helped a lot, I have never been with a guy quite like him..He is just very polite and stuff and i wasnt sure if that was a way of him being polite.

but yeah thanks :]

Some people don't like being affectionate in public at all, mine will hold hands, hug, but when it comes to anything besides a peck on the cheek, no, which is fine with me, I don't want people watching us make out anyway lol

It could easily be that he just doesn't like PDA. However, I also went and looked at your last post about this boy. Unless that situation has changed, it could be an indicator that he just doesn't want to have a public commitment to you - that he's fine when it's just the two of you, but doesn't want others to know it, for some reason.

Maybe you could tell the difference by seeing how he -does- act around people. You don't need to be slathering all over each other to have it be clear that you're together. Does he talk to you? Pay attention to you? Sit close to you? The non-verbals are important.