I need help

OK so me and my girlfriend (who has a history of cheating) went to a party, the host was a guy she had a crush on when we started going out. we got into a fight and she ended up alone with the guy she liked in a locked room for an hour and forty eight minutes. did she cheat on me.

she says she didn't but my gut says she did

Talk to the guy, if you don't trust what she says, chances are it's not going to work out in the end, but there were 2 people there, get both sides.

We hate each other now, he doesnt want to talk to me and i dont want to talk to him

I would say go with your gut, unless she gives you a reason to do otherwise. If you let it fester you're going to destroy the relationship anyway.

I agree with everyone in here about talking to the friend first, but if you've been with this girl long enough, and you love her, you will know if she is lying. I cannot always go by what people say. You know your feelings better than anyone else. If you have a weird feeling, and everything points to you feeling betrayed, then I say, end it. Just take a break, and if she really loves you, she'll cut the crap, stop making you worry about whether she's being faithful or not, which is unhealthy for a relationship, and she'll come to YOU. If she doesn't, then you know, you can do better. WAY better.

Hun, if she cared about you, she wouldn't of been in a locked room with a guy she liked, for that long. She knew, sorry but it's true, she's not stupid, she has a brain, and I'm sure she knows that if she's locked in a room with a guy, other then her boyfriend, and that you both know she liked or likes him, and knew it would hurt you and make you worry, then she wouldn't have done it. And she's not stupid I'm sure, so she knew how it would make you feel.

And if you don't trust her, you don't have a relationship, because relationships are built off trust, not lust. (that rhymed haha)

Hope you make the right choice for yourself, I'm sure you deserve better, we all do.

Sincerely,
Elizabeth (Ellie) <3

'(who has a history of cheating)'

think you just answered your question mate.

She cheated of every boyfriend but i think two
we were at a party together and he was the host
then i called her a whore in my drunken stooper
so she got mad and he said he wouldnt touch her becuase shes fifteen and hes nineteen
but hes also a sleezy guy
she had a crush
and she swears up and down that nothing happened
i dont know how to trust
but i feel betrayed at the end of the day
i want her
i want to spend the rest of my life with her
if she did id forgive her
but the lie would sting more than just hurt
were always together
were the perfect team
but she has hormones and so do i
i made out with another girl and i told her
because i was unsure of where my heart was
she forgave me and all i want is the truth...
i dont wanna end this but its been half a year and i do love her
her name is steph (bingo)
and my name is parish
she makes me breakfast
she always listens
but never speaks herself
and about a year ago
she was (before she met me)
the slut of school
literally
i can forgive how many guys she has had sex with (in the 40s) but if she cheated on me i dont know what to do

You called her a whore in a drunken stupor, she should dump you.

Ever wonder why some people refer to liquor as truth serum?

You two do not sound like a 'team' or a 'couple' at that.

You do not have a good relationship, end it, you're both better off WITHOUT each other.

Bye.

No i didnt know that she moved her when we got to go out
she told me like tree weeks into it
and yeah i was wrong but people call me names does that mean i have a right everytime me and my gf fight to go have sex with another girl i like
it was the wrong word i meant to say bitch and we used to kid around by calling each other names
one just slipped out she calls me horrible stuff but never means it
and at the party she stole a sip of my beer and i jokingl said "got off it you whore" but i meant to say
"get off it you bitch" and i had already had alot of booze before that
i was kidding and she knew that
but the word whore hurt her because people in her old school called her that
i had not said it seriously before or after
she knows this
but i just hope she didnt cheat on me
thats all
if you dont have advice and only insults than dont say something
this is about cheating not insulting

and judging but what that chick said everytime a girl calls me a manwhore i should cheat on them cuz im so hurt by it??????????

"yeah i was wrong but people call me names"

"she calls me horrible stuff but never means it"

You both call each other names, you don't trust her, you cheated on her, so you are probably paranoid that with her background she would have no qualms about getting payback. You have made it clear that her past is a problem for you, though you yourself admit to having loose lips as well, I think we're still waiting to hear some strong points.

I am unsure of where my heart is exactly
i wanna stay with her and she wants to stay with me
i got over her past and she got over my cheating
i just dont know if she cheated
id be able to forgive but am i stupid for doing so
i love her so much shes my world
but it hurts that someone say that i deserve to feel like this
so i ask for help and get insulted
i trust her now but back then a month into it i didn't
so i wanna know if you think she cheated on me
and if i should forgive her IF she did

If you trusted her you wouldn't be here asking strangers, who weren't there, if she cheated on you and whether or not you should forgive her. From everything you have said here the two of you shouldn't be together anyway.

I'v done the same mistake mate. Beer and jokes don't always mix well most of the time. Best thing to do is speak to one of them and find the truth out then you'll have to deal with whatever happens. Xx lucifer xX

Thank you Lucifer and hey i don't need your sarcasm
thanks that you hope i get caught
just proves what horrible people humans are
i learned my lesson and haha were fine so cya home boys and home girls

Lol self delusion can be way worse than alcohol.

Lol...God this sounds like an episode of "The Hills"...Man how I hate that show...Especially Heidi and Spencer...Lol.

Anyways, tell me Mello, seeing as you aired out your dirty laundry, aren't you ashamed that you don't have any trust between yourself and your girlfriend. And isn't it one-sided to actually assume that she slept with the 19 year old, because he's older and better than you?

Please!

She had a crush on him when we were going out and at the party she suggested a threesome with me him and her i said no and they got pissed...so yeah i have reason to believe that they did since they asked me if id alow a threesome

Lol...A threesome...kinky stuff there, why not report the guy who's 4 years older than you and your girlfriend, suggesting this kind of stuff to a minor.

My god Mello, honestly I am not trying to be rude on the board at all, just being honest, looking at what you tell me and what I have experienced. She offers a 3some, you say no, they get mad, you make an offhand remark, they disappear for however long it was. In my gut I say, yeah she probably cheated. You kissed someone else, so technically you have too. You are both obviously disrespectful to one another and by all past actions neither one of you have any reason to trust one another. I always find it funny, just how willing we can be to stay in a relationship like this when we're young, this is the time you should be exploring and having fun, finding someone you mesh with. So much time gets wasted on pointless drama that could easily end if common sense could overcome hormones.

You two have one of the worst relationships I have ever heard of.....

T_T