Falling out of love

I never thought I'd write on this board with anything other than advice for other people. To be honest I always thought that I didn't need it; I was the only one who knew what was right for me. Now I don't know what to do. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years - most of which has been close to perfect. For a while now I haven't been as happy. I can't put my finger on anything that has changed, I just don't feel the same about him anymore. I do still love him but I'm not sure if I still see him in my future and he can tell something is wrong. I know that I'm not being fair on him and that if it's over I should tell him but then part of me wants it to work. I know relationships take a lot of work but I don't know if what we have can be saved. I feel like I met him too young and I am so confused now. I really don't want to hurt him but am I making things worse by staying?

Well... first of all, you should give it time.. maybe you've lost something.. like maybe something you do together, and don't do it anymore due to time management or something like that.. then think about it, you still love him, right? maybe you have other things in mind and your focus is just not on him at the moment.. it wouldn't be fair to break it off especially if you don't have a complete or reasonable explanation to give him. try spending more time together, regain that spark.. if that doesn't work and you seriously just don't feel much else for him, well.. only you will know what to do..

You need to tell him the truth it will hurt him more in the long run if you dont... if you really care about him you will just tell him...you can always stay friends and if you really are meant to be then you will one day find it again...you are not in the wrong here some people just dont always feel it for the other person and if you dont then you dont love is not something you can fix...you have to believe in yourself... things can be perfect one min and then all of a sudden you are not happy anymore b/c you dont have the same feelings...you may still love him the question you need to ask yourself is are you still IN love with him...

I was in exactly the same situation not along ago and all i can say really is GIVE IT TIME!!! tell him what you are feeling and ask for some time to think. Ask for some time away but what ever you do DO NOT BRAKE UP!!!! I've learnt the hard way. I was with my Bf for a long time and eventually i started feeling that i was alone in this relationship and was wondering whether i still loved him...Unfortunately I made the biggest mistake ever by giving up. I made myself think that i didnt need him anymore and there could be someone better out there for me. but to tell you the truth there isnt. as much as you try to find someone and move one it will never be the same. and after all this you will look back and will realise that all the feelings you felt and problems that you mite have had with him are not that big of a deal and you CAN work it out. All you need is time alone to think if its really what you want. Because now its been few months for me without him and at first i was fine i was actually happy but now i realise that no matter how hard i try to replace him i never will. He was my first LOVE and hopefully he will be again as we are trying to work things out again after few months away but now there are SO MANY consequences that i have to come to term with (eg his family and friends hate me for what i have done) in order to make it work again.

I know how you feel. Just tak to him. Tell him how you feel and if he really loves you he will want to work on this inside of just breaking up. Shanik