Moving Along

After loving someone with all your heart for over 1 year, that person is finally gone. This girl was sweet, caring and considerate as far as I knew. She had liked me in the beginning for years...and she was the one who truly showed me how crazy she was in love with me. I guess I kinda learned from her to go crazy in love with Her. Unbelievably, this ended. By saying she doesn't want to be with me...by saying she doesn't want to be in a relationship...it is all very confusing. I ask her if she loves me and she says she does. But the more I ask her little questions WHY WHY WHY, she acts with intolerance and impatience and tells me to go away. It's tough...seeing the person you've known or thought to believe you know all of sudden turn your back on you. It's confusing how she can say "I love you...i just don't want a relationship right now." I've smothered her too much w/ phone calls and clingy behavior that she always gets irritated and angry at this. I just want to know...by me completely not contacting her, will this make her miss me? Can she be acting like this because I am simply PUSHING so much and acting too needy? If I act that I'm fine...will she realize and come back?

Nope not necessarily. You just have to accept it and move on, hounding her and obsessing will just make it worse and get you a reputation. Relationships end all the time, sometimes for good reasons and sometimes for reasons we don't quite understand. The longer you spend obsessing and beating yourself up, the more you miss in life. Why fight to be with someone who obviously doesn't want to be with you?

"Michael. Just move on. You have made three threads about this one girl. The longer you spend waiting for one girl, you let more pass you by."

I was getting to that myself.