Advice. . Please!!

My ex from a couple years back is now coming to live with me becuz we still kept in contact but the thing is I have moved states and I dont think he has realised im not the same as I once was. .

and its not like i can say no I dont want u to come now as he has already bought the plane ticket and given away half his stuff. .

wat do I do. .

he is already being clingy and were not in the same state?!

Set boundaries and stick with them and if he can't, tell him to move on. Don't blur anything you want fully understood, if you are not interested in him romantically, make sure it is known, these are all things you should have thought of before committing to anything.

Backin' Bobby.

Seconded

Lol I never even looked to see how old she was.

It's not illegal to do this. Don't come back and complain if anything bad happens, i don't wanna read that bs. your choice.

I don't have the balls to do anything like that, nor move out with someone at such a age or have someone do the same.

You shall be ashamed of yourself.

16? Ex? Parents? Details?

"...and its not like i can say no I dont want u to come now as he has already bought the plane ticket and given away half his stuff..."

^ Uh... Yeah, you actually can. You're not obligated to him nor have any obligations.

I agree with Bob too. I'm sixteen, and there is no way in heck my parents would EVER let a boy who isn't related(boyfriend or ex) move in with me. Where are your parents/guardian at?

I also agree with Romantic Realist. You can tell him no. You don't owe him anything.

"and its not like i can say no I dont want u to come now as he has already bought the plane ticket and given away half his stuff. ."

Of course you can. Just open your mouth and enunciate very slowly. Or, if you find it difficult to speak...write it out on paper, type it through text, or even instant messenger.

"N-O"

Good God, you're only 16. I'm 19 and when I'm not on campus, I'm at home with my mother and siblings. Boys are icky...and have bad aim. Think about it.

Ok for starters I did not put to many details . . just becuz Im 16/17 I actually turned 17 not long ago does not mean Im not responsible. . And as for the pregnant comment thats not called for you dont no my sexual activities or the way I feel. . and I actually live at home. . with my mum and my 3 little brothers. . I myself hate the idea of falling pregnant at a young age so I have taken the precautions to avoid that at all costs. . . so instead of judging so harshly and thinking basicly on stereotypes maybe ask a few questions first. .
I posted this thingy because I wanted him to come but I was getting cold feet and well he didnt come anyway he bought a car instead so It made me realise that he wasnt worth it in the first place. . and thanks to the people who commented yet did not judge to harshly!!

And I would also like to add that I am still at school and am working part time hours and am currently looking for another job. .

If you read my previous comments. . u will find written that I live with my mother and 3 brothers and as he was moving in with me. . We wuld be living under the same roof as my mother and siblings and legal age for sex and what not in australia is 17 and even some cases 16 look it up if u dont believe me

Words cannot describe how much I agree Amanda.

This is a joke, this whole entire post is a joke, and the fact that you are even thinking about letting this moron move in with you is a joke. He's your ex?! So you're not even dating? What would be the point of this?? Please answer that question. I'm not sure if I just missed a part, but answer that. WHY does he want to move in and WHY are you considering this?

P.s...YES. You certainly can tell him to not move in. YES, you can stand up for yourself and make desicions. Maybe he shouldn't be such a deadbeat if he has to mooch off of his ex. Doesn't he have any friends, family, or AT LEAST a current girlfriend.

It sounds like you have a huge issue saying no to people. But honestly.... I don't understand how this is such a difficult decision. You are 16, young, single, living with mom. NOT.... 28, in relationship with this man, and living alone. But it sure seems like you are trying to convince yourself that. Do yourself, your life, and your mom's life....a favor. And don't ruin your life.. If he's already a clingy pain, imagine what life is going to be like living with him. Please start thinking more clearly. And start being reasonable with yourself. Not to mention with your mom. She would actually let this happen?? What??

P.s...I'm not trying to be mean or judgemental...but I am trying to stop you from making an utterly ridiculous and stupid mistake that WILL ruin you. Have some respect for yourself.