Is a certain age pushing it?

Okay so lately i've realized my like for older guys..and i don't really mean like 2 or 3 years older i mean like I'm 16 and they're in their 20's. I dont know what it is...and i'm just kind of curious what your thoughts are on it? I barely notice guys my own age :/ Is this weird?

To me it's weird, but only because I have brothers in their 20's. So to me, it would be like dating my brothers. (Which is a very disturbing thought. *shudders*)

You gotta be careful with older guys though. Most will want more from you than just holding hands and a kiss here and there.

Well i personally dont think its weird to be interested in someone older than you , like early 20's ?
i mean if you think of some of our parents they are like lots of years apart and stuff , but it might be a little weird considering your still a high schooler , but i dont know , i personally dont think its that weird at all ,

Of course there is nothing wrong with liking guys that are a lot older than you. I never dated any guys in high school cause i was always interested in the older guys too...

but to be honest, when i got older and thought about those 22, 23, 24 year old guys who would actually go out with me, i got disgusted. i mean i loved it and all, but what in the world is wrong with those guys? Can they not get a date with a girl who is actually LEGAL for them to date? :)

Yeah, i dont think there is anything wrong liking older guys and for you to want to date them. you feel like you can be on a level with them where you can actually have a conversation unlike guys your own age! it doesn't change either when you get older. i still can't stand guys my age! Just be careful and know that they aren't necessarily better to date just cause you like them more.

^I agree with Bob also. There would be a very dead, sick bast....

I don't understand why some parents think that it's okay to let this happen. And then they wonder why there's so many teen pregnancies....

Amanda: my dad is protective over me. My mom has told me on several accounts when me and my boyfriend have been sitting on the couch watching TV or something and my dad has looked through the glass in the kitchen, watching us. lol.

A 30 year old with a 17 year old?.. So wow. That's a prime example of robbing the cradle. Disturbing that her parents allow a man to be dating a child.

Lol, it's absolutely normal. Older guys seem more mature than guys our on age! lol. My opinion is that I think it's totally cool, the longer the age gap the better. =)

I dont think its weird. when i was 17 i had a crush on a guy who was 25 and guess wat when i turned 19 i started dating this guy.. well lets say it all ended bad but i know wat you mean.. i have alway had a thing for older guys but i have decided to mix thing up a bit.. ill let you know how it turns out lol..

The guy I am with will be 18 on Halloween this year and I turned 21 just recently. And we will celebrate our 3 year anniversary this year too,

I think a bit of a gap is okay, but nothing to huge, or it kind of makes a gap in your relationship and feelings.

As long as you are both serious, safe and committed, then go for it!

I don't see anything wrong with that. If you like older guys then you like older guys, I mean who cares what all of us think. It's really up to you to choose who you want to date.

You probably like older guys because they're more mature than the guys your age.

Just be careful because they might want more from you and you might not be ready for that.

16 and 30??? What the hell is wrong with you?? How can you think that is normal. Thats almost like a father dating his daughter like half his age???? That is very wrong. If it were closer in age it would be more understandable... But thats pushing it. Thats just gross...

What most girls don't understand is that most guys only want a good lay. "Oh no he tells me he loves me and we have a connection... " Yeah... Right.. Thats what they all say. how many girls actually stay with that guy or are happy with that guy?? Yeah he is more mature than guys our age but I see it happen all too often. The guy takes advantage.

I'm 19 and have dated guys a couple yrs older i mean like 2 years ,,,when you're an ADULT I think then you can think about dating a guy a few years older cause your brain isn't done developing yet and any adult guy that's relatively classy wouldn't talk to a girl that much younger on that level. . . . in MOST cases, there are exceptions but I think guys that date girls still in high school are pathetic. ( SORRY)

I live on Canada where the legal age for consent is 16 but honestly no one ever dates that young heck when I go to bars with friends and a girl walks up to me I usually ask " how old are you really?" cause they are usually not the legal age to drink(19).

I've heard lots of times about younger girls who have that fanasty and the same goes for guys the dating older women. The majority of honest guys out there will NEVER date that low in age. They are really immautre 18 is where they have to be for me to even consider dating them (or to be honest) to be friends with them I mean I'm 25 and feel that the younger group of people are less matured socially. There are exceptions, but most of the time that is how it is. Just stating an opinion hate me if you like for it. Btw, youngest I've dated below me was 2 years above me was 4 I was 18 she was 22(here is the scary part I was more mature at that age then she was. And I'm probably less mature now then I was then if possible)

To me it is a little weird I think 3 years apart in age is about as far as anyone should go maybe 4 but that is pushing it but my thought everyone is different.

Well this is just my opinion. But if you are over 18 and find men much older than you attractive. But if you are younger than 18 it is still ok to be curious about older men but do not act on that curiosity. It will get him in a lot of trouble and in some schools (not all) you may be considered a slut.

I do not like guys my own age such as like only a year older than me. I tend to like guys who are just a few years older than me. The guy I like now is 2 years and 6 months older than me.

"...My opinion is that I think it's totally cool, the longer the age gap the better. =)"

^ ...It's "cool"? Is it just me, or does this sound like the kind of attitude that's been leading many young girls/boys down the path of ignorance?

"Until then, waste your time with stupid boys your age. They make you appreciate the old men you find :] Haha."

^ Haha. Live and learn. :)

"Personally If I had a daughter and an MAN tried to date while she was still underage, I'd shoot him and think nothing about it."

^ If you did have a daughter you'd make one great father. :)

I've personally dated two older men. One that was nine years older and one that was eight years older. Now they were both also long distance relationships, so I suppose that changes some things because they're obviously not going to get laid. Anyhow, I was watching a documentary that said that the reason for dating an older man is because they are lacking a father figure in their life. Because they don't have this older man in their life that they are close to, they subconsciously try to fill that gap with an older man. This may not be the case for every girl, but it would make sense for me, as my parents divorced and I moved away from my father.

I think that if both are legal age, it shouldnt matter... at all! But if your 16 and want to get with a 28yr old, then yeah... thats kinda weird... because older guys are much wiser(sometimes) and they have alot more experience than a 16yr old does... just becareful... be smart about it... because you can be smart about it... for example, I was 17 and i dated this guy he was 23... but I was smart about it... he had a few tricks up his sleeve... but I was smarter than he was... at the end we didnt last past 2 months...

Good Luck!!

I started dating a 30yr old when I was 18/19 and to b honest it was one of my less intelligent ideas .I came to realise that I was missing out on being young because he hated the fact that I had friends who I went out with that he didnt really like much because they were different to him. Im not saying that the age gap cant work coz im sure that in many cases it can, but not at 16. At 16 you've still got far too much to learn about yourself without commiting yourself to a relationship with an older man. The dynamics of a relationship would probably be too much for somebody at 16, I know it would have been for me.

Your fantasy of older men (being in a relationship with or other) is natural. But, do you find you like "older" men say in their 20's (21, 22, 23+) because they appear to be more "mature"? Sorry to tell you but not all of them are as mature as you think or people make it out to seem. And like someone mentioned, they most likely would want more than just to hold your hand. Of course, there are those who are exceptions; some older guys are mature. But don't forget that they were once your age too. The boys your age will grow up too.

Perhaps some actually may already be. I'm not sure why you don't "notice" boys your age, but maybe your just biased and just categorizing all boys into a group with boys you already know who are immature. Maybe you think that you are more mature than the boys your own age, which could be very well. But perhaps you are setting an invisible bar; a standard, for and of yourself to high for boys to reach. That's all very well and good; having morals and values for and of yourself, but perhaps you don't give them a chance to prove to you otherwise that they are mature. (This is just me stating a thought openly, I'm not saying that you are doing these or are these things, I just don't know your reasoning.)

To me when you reach a certain age it doesn't automatically qualify you as mature. To me it depends on how you treat others, handle situations, who you are as a person and on how you were brought up; how you were raised, by your family.

Also, like many have said, depending where you live, it could be illegal. Not to mention, what would your parents think if you started dating someone in their 20's? I don't know their views on the issue, but it can go either way; they could be okay with it, decide to meet him and get to know him, or they could be against it and decide to press charges. As parents, they have that right. If I had a daughter/son who told me they were dating or brought home someone older (in their 20's or god forbid 30's, 40's+) I would highly disapprove, no matter if my child was under the legal age or of legal age. As long as they lived in my house I would not give consent and, depending, press charges.

In a way, I sort of felt the same way you do when I was 16. The boys my own age; the boys my age I knew, just weren't mature enough for me. Like yourself, I fantasized about what it would be like, say, dating an older guy (18, 19, 20 or so). Of course I knew it wasn't illegal because I was of age, but to me it still felt like it would be against the law, I thought it was wrong and not to mention that my parents might not approve. Also, when I was 14, I decided that I wasn't going to date anyone until I was at least 18 (that is if I liked anyone). That's when I met my boyfriend, of now 4yrs, who was also 16. (Funny observation, I "dated" several people before; one who was a year younger than me & after one a year older, but one was not mature enough for me and the other only wanted one thing. Then I met my boyfriend who was the same age as me as well as who was mature. Maybe that's the key. As the saying goes, "Why don't you date someone your own age!!!" ...Okay, maybe that's not the exact saying, but I didn't say it was going to be an old expression, lol.) After being together for 4yrs, getting to know him and having met his parents it's no wonder he was as mature as he was.

My suggestion, if you do want to date someone "older", is to wait till you yourself are older; you're still a child and still have a lot to learn. Wait till you grow up and until you can become more responsible for yourself.

All right, my phase was with a 20 year old and i was 16. We did not date because my mom did not allow it and I understood why, but I still wanted to be with him. We kissed, hugged, nothing else. I really did like him, but then again, I believe he was my rebound from my ex. He turned 21 in january and i'm not turning 17 till july. He has a gf now, and we are very good friends, and we decided that once i'm 18, if we are both single we can try to talk again if we want.

This guy at work messes with me, he is 20. He says I'm cute and i joke around saying just you and me, and he laughs and says no way i'd get locked up! I don't like this boy, but I do finally realize that you should wait until you legal and mature. Older guys are easier to get along with in my case, but I'm taking a break from boys altogether now!

Just wait till you're 18, trust me you'll live. I've got a year and a month, and i can def wait.

I look at this from an older brother perspective. My sis is 17, and curently dating an 19 year old. Wich dosnt bother me so much. My only thing is that if some dude older then me wanted to date her, I would probly cut his phallus off and then send him back to warn the other pedos in the world not to touch my family. The thing is that you must reconize that with older guys, weve been around the block a few more times then you and alot of them will use your ignorance and even innocence in life against you to get what ever the hell they want. Im 21 years old and I would never date any chick who was younger then my sister. I would feel dirty personaly. I personaly think its wrong, but at the same time its not my place to force my opinions on anyone who is not in my family, But i will say for you to be very cautions about what men you choose of any age. Their actions sometimes belies their ends. They can be absolute sweethearts one day and the next your crying becouse your not proud of something you did in the back of a car behind some Wall-Mart. I watched two of my really close chic friends go through something like that, so again, just be like super careful.

I think its depends. if your 17, the cutoff should be 20. 16 it should be 18. once you become 18, you can date whoever you like, but i think it'd be weird to date anyone over 25...

when i was 17.5 i met my boyfriend who had his birthday a few days after we met where he turned 20. didnt bother me, drove my dad crazy though. we're still together now and he's about to turn 21. its weird to me...i just graduated, and hes legal to drink? haha. but its not too far of a gap it bothers me much, its just a little weird =p

I dont think its wierd at all. With my last ex, he was 24 and I was 16 when we broke up, or i should say he left me.

Now Im 17 and dating a guy whos 20, turning 21 in October!

Umm well i dont think its too weird because my best friend was 13 dating 19-20 year olds..i know..her parents were the type who didnt care and she was the girl wanting to be grownup already and now she is 16 and preganant and in a relationship with a 20 year old and to me its only bad because you grow up alot faster and may do things you will regret later in life.