Tell me what you think

I was with this guy and we were engaged. well we broke up a while ago but now hes texting me saying that he misses me and he loves me. and i went over to his house like a week ago cuz he asked me to and while i was there..i started to cry cuz im in love with him and hes my whole world. and seeing him made me happy but also sad, anyways he held me for a while then started kissing me and saying stuff that he realised that he was gonna love me forever and that he still want to marry me and have a future and that he wants to be with me, but everytime i tell him how i feel and how much he means to me and that i wannt be with him he says he cant but he also says that he wants to be with me. what i dont understand is why cant we be together if we both want and need each other.. it makes no sense to me. i love this boy with everything that i got and everytime i think about us i cry because he wont be with me but he says he still wants to marry me... i just dont get it. im so confused an i dont even know what to do..

Well yeah we talked about everything. im already in early college classes for early childhood education. and he has a good job and all.. and i actually cant have kids.. but i dont wanna give up then i again i do..

It sounds like he's just screwing with you, to be honest. He doesn't want to be with you, he just wants you as a fall-back girl, or somebody who will be there when all his other options fail. He's stringing you along.

Also, do not be worrying about marriage at 17. Things change. Wait until you have settled down, and have a definite life plan before you work on merging it with someone elses. It's one thing to make compromises, but you are too young to be compromising your future.

Worry about yourself- and never do anything where you would be stuck in a bad situation if you lost your relationship. If you're going to be together forever anyways, then what is the rush on marriage?

It was a long engagement, like no wedding until after college and stuff. and i'll be starting college next year.

i dont know why but i keep hanging on. i try to forget about him but i cant. he acts like were still together and stuff and calls by my nicknames like he always did. he was like my first for everything and i know thats a stupid reason to keep holding on but for some reason i cant let go.

Really what kind of self respecting man tells a girl we loves her and wants to marry her but won't BE with her???? Have you thought about that.

"It was a long engagement, like no wedding until after college and stuff. and i'll be starting college next year."

So when he says he doesn't want to be with you but wants to marry you, does that mean that throughout this engagement you two can see other people?? Until you get marries??

I think that if you can't get through this and gets things right you aren't ready to be married...

In some ways, it sounds like you want to move on but you can't. Yeah, he's your first love and it's hard to let go of that but we've all had first loves. Me and my first love actually just broke up a couple of months ago. How many people actually end up marrying their first loves?

You probably think you'll never find a guy like him, but seriously, you'll probably find a BETTER guy. It is going to be hard to let go, but if or when you do let him go, just delete his number, throw everything away that reminds you of him. It'll be hard at first but after awhile, it'll get better.

There's a lot of better guys out there, and you obviously deserve better. I think your too young to think about marriage. You should be thinking about something else. Why even talk about marriage at this age? You have so many other things to experience.

^She has a point^

Have fun and live life as it is here. Don't think about tying yourself down with just one person now. A real man will say he wants to marry you and will be with you not the other way around

Thanks for your help and support guys.
i'll think about you you all said.