Drunken stupidity/fighting/anger/and questions...

Yesterday was my mom and my brothers birthday. because he is now of drinking age all of the older people were drinking but they got drunk fast. my mom isn't a big drinker anymore but yesterday got really drunk. She punched my brother in the face and when I stepped between them she came at me. Her and I got in 3 fights and the cops were called.

My brother is now saying that she is not his mom and he is moving out again. He just came home and i missed him so much. But he has "disowned her" as some would say. He's packing everything and moving out and said he can't forgive her for a long time.

As for me, I don't know. I'm tired of it. I'm tired of watching her drink and want to argue. But I'm more tired of her crap and wanting to fight me for stopping her from doing something incredibly stupid. I don't want to forgive her. But I know when she wakes up in jail today and doesn't remember what she did she will regret whatever it is. I hate seeing her in emotional pain. Yet I cannot help but wish i didn't have to go home to her...

what should I do???

Okay, well the first thing is that you have to accept that you can't change who she is. This is your mother and that is someone who should be there for you and understand such things.

The second thing I would recommend you do is to sit down and explain how this makes you feel. I know that it's really hard to do, but you have to do it because if you don't then she will just think that she upset your brother and focus on him.

I know, I live with an alcholic and he is always drinking. I'm pretty sure he's drunk right now. I know that there is no one but themselves who they have to blame.

You're 16 or so your profile says, You either must stay with a guardian, or your mother.

Sit down and talk with her. let her know how this makes you feel. Perhaps going to a meeting would help as well. AA is a really good place for her to show that she is willing to take a step in the right direction.

There are people who can handle their liquor and people who should never drink, like my friends can't drink rum, makes them violent.

Sit down and talk, best advice.

I've tried sitting with her and my dad. She doesn't want to talk about it. She told me though that she doesn't remember anything. The last thing she remembers happened a few hours before the fighting. the day she came home I knew when I got outta school the I couldn't go there. I stayed by the river until 830 that night before going home.

But all she said to me was a comment about me faking sick. (the school called the paramedics because I couldn't breath and i have a history of missing school for what they call "faking sick")

It was a couple days before she talked to me enough to let me know she talked to me brother. She hasn't apologized or anything. Though she knows she fought with me...