Still not moved on..

  • Miss understood
    15 years ago

    How is it that still a year down the line .. i still havent moved on from him...its only been 3 months since i lost contact with him for good! but its hurting more than ever right now..and i dont no what to do..im tryin 2 just distract myself..and that works for the time it takes...and then im back to thinking about him..

  • Dominique
    15 years ago

    Don't feel bad about not moving on after a year has gone by, you'll move on when you're ready. Personally I believe you can only move on from someone when you find someone else to care about more.

    Keep your head up, I promise you'll be fine. It's good that you're distracting yourself as much as you can...keep that up. And remember it's ok to think about this guy from time to time, he obviously meant a great deal to you.

  • Dark Savior
    15 years ago

    To add to what britt said" you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you meet your prince charming". I will do something I rarely do and tell the honest truth without bending things to make me seem more cool or less human or change names to protect people.

    I'm up in Halifax right now taking a course what sparked it was the woman who I'd been in love with for a year and a half had said that she no longer loved me. I cried a lot that night and it's one of the only times anyone has seen me cry. She was asain and because I was white her mother and brother didn't approve of me( I had no idea that would come into play) I learned later that she had been listening to her mother saying things like I could never provide for a family and that I was out of shape(which is true/was true rather).

    I had sat down for three months and cried when I'd seen our pictures together I have a very low self esteem at times. It honestly just made my cry(I'm a tough looking guy and keep up the demor but truth be told I'm a big teddy bear she called me her Shaun bear) it festered on my brain for three months probably four why wasn't I good enough I was trying to change but it was hard to live up to things. She had also given my a very special gift one that you can't give back.

    I guess what I came to realize is that there is nothing wrong with me and crying isn't a sign of weakness it's just your hearts way of speaking. We've been split up for like 6-7 months I think about her sometimes, but know that we just became different people I couldn't change my skin colour and she couldn't get her mother(and in some ways herself) to look past it.

    You will long for them from time to time but it's not that person that you miss it's how they made you feel that is what you miss....

    I hope my store is able to help you in some way.

    Regards,
    Shaun aka Dark Savior