PROBLEM....

Ok... i have this boyfriend that i have been with for the past 3years but recently things have been wierd.. i hardly ever seen him cuz he works out of town alot.. and i work at so we never have time 4 each other and i feel like we shouldnt b 2gether anymore but everytime i break up with him he does this way of talking that always gets me back in his life. i really dont know wat to do.. parts of me want to have fun and party cuz im only 21 and another part of me is telling me its been 3years and thats way to long to decided to throw it all away... i dont really know wat to do... anyone got any advice???

I couldnt do a relationship with a man that worked out of town and was gone for awhile. but thats me..
does he love you? and do you love him?
are you happy? do yall get along?

You know the answer and you're just looking for people to post it up here.

I can assure you that whatever you feel is right then perhaps you should do that. don't answer the calls, don't listen to his emails, don't do any of that and just explain it to him.

Do what you have to.

I use to be in love with him but i do love him but not as deep as i use to.. i know he loves me i think thats y its so hard cuz i really dont want to break his heart.. but were at 2 different stages in our lifes hes ready to settle down and i need time to be able to party and get it out of my system but im scared about wat if i break up with him and after im done with my party vibe what if i realize i actually really do love him but its to late... geez i have so many thoughts in my head.. hes 28 years old so he already went through his party years but i havent and parts of me want to but the other part of me is saying its a mistake.. im so confused...

I hate when people say "but I've been going out with him for so and so years" like that shouldn't even matter. It really matters how you feel about him. If you don't feel the same, why waste another year of your life with him? You shouldn't have a guy stop you from experiencing and having fun with your life.

But, if you do decide to break up with him, it's going to be really hard, so be prepared.

I agree with this lady above me ^^^

Don't think of it in terms of "that's a lot of time to be with someone if it's just going to end." You're young. You're free to experiment and try a few different things/people out, if that's what you want to do. Instead of thinking of it as you are, think instead of how much MORE time you'd be "wasting" sitting in a relationship that you're not really content with. As it is now, it's not fair to either of you. You deserve your independence, if that's what you're yearning for, and he deserves the chance to be with someone who's in it 100%. Good luck with whatever you do!