Friends Are Friends Forever (Even If You Don't Want Them To Be)

Multiple problems here.

There one person that I've liked for a while now, and I asked her out and got the "friend" speech again, but later got maybe, then she found an old friend to be with her. A part of me is happy for her, but yet, there's another part that says "when's my turn!?!" What should I do?

Then there's one I used to date, and want to stay away from. Quite possibly the worst 3 months of my life. She's the exact opposite of who I am, and SHE STILL LIKES ME!!! *barfs* How do I keep her away?

Problem One: Let go and move on. Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you? I know, easier said than done, but there's a lot more fish in the sea.

Problem Two: Just tell her that you don't like her anymore and to back off. If she calls you, don't pick up. If she texts you, don't reply.

^Nicely put.

They often say that when you're in a relationship, its better to be loved more by your significant other, than it is to love them yourself. It seems that, unfortunate so it is, that the girl just isn't interested. If she was, she'd have responded directly. I don't quite know whether she's being a real friend in even giving you a 'maybe' - what a weird position to put someone in, wouldn't you agree? My opinion: leave it be. Move on, for you will find someone who will actually respond to your feelings.

As for the other girl; tell her how it is. Be gentle, but firm. Sometimes girls just need to know to back off or they'll just go loony over someone that doesn't even like them back. And I see it's surprised you that "She's the exact opposite of who I am, and SHE STILL LIKES ME" - but this is common for a lot of people. I might be getting a little psychological now, but there are people who seek comfort in those who are different to them because they feel their significant other will help fulfil their needs. In this case, I wouldn't be able to tell you what it is, for I don't know 'details'. But yes.

Do as you think fits with what we've told you. It's probably the best way out.

First problem: I agree that to leave you with "maybe" is a weird position to be put in. But, relationships are consensual. If she doesn't want to be with you then there's nothing you can do about that & if she wants to be with someone else there is also nothing you can do about that, it's her choice. Let go & move on.

Second problem: Simply, just tell her that it's over, you're trying to move on & that you don't like her in that way anymore. If she calls, don't pick up & if she texts, don't reply.