Abuse

I want 2 try 2 make a series of threads w/ problems and situations w/o breaking any rules. Like the topic will b @ the top and ppl's examples and stories and advice will be allowed. I want 2 have like group discussions w/ ppl on this site that goes through the same things as every1 else.

This 1 I would like 2 b about abuse. Child abuse, animal, adult, marriage, siblings, friend etc. W/e kind hurts and affects u, I would love to hear about it. We all would. But if others don't like these topics I would appreciate that u don't hurt any1 but I would like u 2 join in and say y.

It's open for choice now. =)

I think this is a good idea. :) The sad thing is, my friend came to my house yesturday and told me how her dad beat her pretty bad. She fought back and she doesn't have that many scars but I hate that she has to live with that. The worst part about it is, her mom the whole time was watching and saying to her that she deserved it and she was stupid. I feel bad cause now the police are investagating her house because of him. I'm scared for her. I just hope that everything works out for the best.

Does anyone have any opinions about this?

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I agree with ^ exactly.

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^That's happened 2 u?

But Ski, doesn't she have siblings that will taken away 2? What would happen 2 them?

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I'm so sorry that happened 2 u. Have u ever called the cops?

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If that teacher said "tell the school counselor", that teacher is an idiot. They should have reported it right there. And social services are not "looking" for a certain case; if you are being abused by someone, they WILL investigate.

Just because you might not be abused as bad as some other kids, does not mean you get off easier. Abuse is still abuse, no matter how severe it is.

Tis what the school consulor said. *shrugs*

It is hard to live with an abusive person. I can't say it gets easier, I can't say it hurts any less as time goes by, but sometimes you just sort of grow numb to it. You get tired of fighting it. You give in. You close your eyes when it gets hard and wait 'till it's over. You stop screaming, stop resisting because you know it does no good. You accept that it's happened, you accept that it's happening, and are maybe just grateful it's you and not your brothers or sisters.

I agree with Bianca

Me too. >>

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I do get what ur saying TPAM. My dad hits me but it's not like he does it all the time. It's just that when he does he won't stop. Last time he was punching me in the face and gave me bruises. Personally I just want him dead but I don't think any1 would take me serious. I have an additude and that's his excuse even though I really persoanlly don't think that I do anything wrong.

But that's my purpose of making this thread so ppl (every1) can have a chance 2 talk about how they feel w/ this issue.

That's how it is with my friend. It's sad because the cops have no real proof that happened. Even though her face was kinda bloody, she plays sports and her dad said that's how she got it. Her mom went along with her dad to which made it worse. But they're still looking into it but I'm sorta scared for her. Scary! I would hate for my dad to do that to me

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My mom rareley hits me...It's the verbal abuse. She'll call me stupid....She always says I look like crap, I need to look like all the other girls at my school, why can't I get straight A's, how Im not responsabile enough to do anything....it goes on and on. And I hate it. It really makes me angry, sad....depressed. I can't take it anymore. I've actually tried to cut, which was the stupidest thing I ever tried. I just don't know how to tell her that I hate when she does this. She doesn't see how it's killing me. My friend said just to tough out these last two years at home..I've made it this long. Sorry if this seems like a bunch of ramblings...It's just I don't know what to do.

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Ignore her.
That's the best advice I can give. Yeah, sometimes it's hard and you feel down, but you have to remember that you're better than she says you are. You have to recognize your strengths and feel good about yourself, because life will suck 5 times worse if you give in and start believing what she tells you.

I agree w/ TPAM. My mom talks 2 me like that all the time. She calls me weak and a b**ch. So I get where ur coming from and it really does hurt. I remember 1ce she told me that she wanted 2 kill me when I was like 12 and I went in2 my room and she said that she doesn't care if I slit my throat. That broke my heart cuz I was very suicidal as it was. And that made it a lot worse. I started drinking, cutting myself more everyday. I remember I ended up cutting really deep I thought that I had 2 go 2 the hospital I didn't though. But my point is, it doesn't bother me as much now. It used 2 a lot more back then but like TPAM said, just try 2 ignore her. Ur better than what she tells u. And u have 2 believe that. Life WILL b harder if u listen 2 what she says

My dad used to beat me about twice, to three times a week, my mom would just look at me and walk away, pretending she didn't see anything. My mom loves my dad more then she loves me, so she would never do anything to stop him from what he thought was right and/or necessary. She told me that. I can't get the words out of my head, its like someone set them in stone. My dad only does it to me, I have two older brothers, one still lives here, and the other has moved out a long while ago. The one that still lives here is too afraid to stand up to my dad, so he just helps me with the bandages and bruises after my dad finished beating me.

I now flinch when people touch me.

My dad has stopped beating me so bad because I called CPA on him, they had a trial and because I covered up the bruises by saying I just fell or slipped or got hurt from gymnastics (I'm pretty clumsy..) but I couldn't very well cover up the hand prints on my wrists.. now I'm monitored every other day by Child Services at my school, they check to see if I have any bruising or if I complain of anything. They come to my house once a month to make sure nothings going on, but soon their going to change it and start coming once every six months ..checking once a week at my school.

Now he hits me with an open palm or with something that doesn't leave a mark. he told me if I tell again that he'll make sure he starts doing it to my brother, or that he'd kill me. I've grown numb to it now as well. It's just a part of my life now.

My dad 2. I've never called the cops on him or anything. 2 me he doesn't do it enough 4 me 2 call. He doesn't hit my sister, only me. I'm sorry that ur dad does that. I'm more sorry that u have 2 go through that and that ur mom doesn't do anything about it. The funny thing is, in my case my mom hates my dad (or so she says) but she always ALWAYS takes his side w/ things like that. Last time he busted my lip open a little and I had a couple of bruises and scars on my face and all she said 2 me was that I deserved it. I don't what a child does 2 their parent, that doesn't give the parent and excuse 2 hurt them the way some do. I'm sorry that u go through that, but that's the reason y I made this thread, so ppl can talk about it. Sometimes we're the only ppl that any of us can talk 2, we have no 1 else, I know I don't.

And I also want 2 say 2 any1, if u ever need 2 talk about anything, I'm here. Sometimes it's easier 2 talk 2 a stranger cuz they can't judge u. At least it's easier 4 me. But please I'm always here

OMG! You guys seriously need to get out these situations. Any abuse physically, mentally, verbally or sexually is abuse whether it happens once -10 times a week. Nobody deserves this, EVER!! I have never ever been hit by any of my parents because they know it's wrong. The police need to know what happens and they should listen whether you have bruises or not because they can distinguish how old a bruise is and if any of you are being sexually abused they can tell if there has been forced entry and when it happened obviously not what time but they can see how long ago it was like a week etc. Get out of there. And whoever said ignore someone who is verbally abusing you - it's not that easy.

Emma-

I really have no way out of where I am at. My mom is my "custodial gaurdian". I really can't get out. She doesn't leave physical scars, so, crap, I don't know. I just have no way out until I graduate. And you're right, it's very difficult to ignore her. I cry myself to sleep a lot. I can't ignore her anymore. I've just built a shell and avoid the worst of it.

I can only try to understand what you are all going through because I've never been through any kind of abuse. I just try to give the best advice I can, if getting out is an option then go for it but obviously if it's not the best thing you can do is stay out of the way the best you can. Not that you should have to from your own parents/guardians.
I hate hearing things that people have to go through, it makes me sick and if I could help every person that's been abused in any way, I would.

My little sister is 14, and her good friend is 14 as well. Now, I know this isin't as bad as physical abuse or anything...but the poor girl suffers from horrible verbal abuse by her parents and a lot of her other family members. It's just sad. I wish I could remember the whole story behind things. but, darn my memory.

anyway she was at our house this past summer. I asked her and my sister if they wanted me to take them to a lake. since it was really hot, and our pool's heater wasn't working. plus, all the public pools would be full. she asked me if the water would be deep. and I told her, that not at first. but yes it does get deep. and she responded something like, "ok good, I can go then! my mom tells me I'm too stupid to learn how to swim."

and she wasn't joking. she said it as if she were saying, "my mom doesn't want me in deep water." it was so sad.

Well when i was 15 i met this guy and he was 21. i fell in love. he was my first ever boyfriend..to make the story short..at the time he use to beat me,cut me up,stabb me,choke me,throw me down the stairs and alot more...i stayed with him cause i loved him and belive that people would change..he use to lock me up in his house and wouldnt let me go anywhere and would tell me what to wear cause if i wore something he wouldnt like he would rip it off. and if i looked at some body in public he would hit me and do other things...i was young and dumb and didnt no what was right then and now i realized even tho it took me to lose my baby on my 18ths birthday when he thru me down the stairs.

Im barely 14, and i get alot of verbal abuse from everyone. my mom doesn't hit me anymore since the hospital said i might have a tumor in my head. but she never stops telling me im not good enough. that im so stupid.
i hate her so much. when my little sister was 2, my mom kicked her...and my lil sis went flying to the wall & started crying. i went to my sis and carried her to my room, locked the door, and listened to my mother yelling outside the door. that night, i had my sister sleep with me.
what hurts the most is that my sister abuses me so much, i cry, cut, and put myself down alot. i can't take this any longer, but i must. sad to say...i love my big sister dearly. i do her homework to make her happy, i stay out of her way when she's in a bad mood.
my worst memory was when my mom choked me when i was 8 1/2....
i need someone to talk to everyday, just so i know that someone cares...but nobody talks to me. or even bothers to see if my cuts are too deep.
read my 2 poems called ~No Excuse For Abuse Parts 1 &2~, that'll explain my ex's abuse towards me.
may someone talk to me....at least 2 times a week.....please. im so alone, i have no where else to turn.

*Val