Family.

Ok. Recently I had just called my cousin Mikey after he messaged me and said he wanted to talk to me and he gave me my number. I was hesitantly thinking about whether to call him or not because of my dad and my uncle, which is Mikey's father.
Let me start from the beginning, Mikey and I met at his dads house and we got along, we gave eachother our number because many of my cousins dont talk to me. Well we talked for maybe a few months and we became really, really close, we could talk to each other about ANYTHING. He lived a few states away from where I lived and so we could talk on the phone. Well my dad and his dad (which are brothers) decided that they didn't want us to speak to each other, EVER! All because they thought when Mikey was 17 turning 18 last year that they thought we'd be stupid and want to do something with eachother, which is DISGUSTING! Never in my life had I ever thought of even thinking about doing something with my own cousin. So our dads told each of us (in different conversations on the phone) that we couldn't speak with eachother at all and if he spoke to me, they were going to call the cops on Mikey and turn him in.

What Im trying to say is, Im 17 now and I should be able to talk to who ever I want and be trusted to make decsions for myself. I told my dad numerous times, that me and Mikey were cousins and he had to be stupid to think something was gonna happen between us' And when I tried to tell dad what he told me and how its unfair to me to cut all ties off with the only cousin I could talk to about anything, and he told me to deal with it.
Well recently I didnt care what my dad said or did, I wanted to talk to the only cousin that ever cared about me and I called him. I should also mention that his mother passed away Christmas Day and I couldnt even say I was sorry to hear about her loss or even comfort him because my dad said he moved to another state (which i found out he never did). And I told Mikey what my dad said and why I havent talked to him in a long time (about over a year). He thinks it was stupid for our fathers to do that to us and not trust us.

I just want to have some advice on what I should do or say to my father about this. I love my cousin Mikey to freakin death, and hes very protective of me. Hes like a big brother that I never had in my life, sorta like my father too, you know? My dad doesnt give a crap bout me. Im 17 and I believe I have every right to talk to anyone I want.

I should also mention, I dont even live with my father, I havent my whole life, he never calls me and never once have I ever gotten a b-day card from him in my life! I stay with another relative. I told my mom that I called mikey and she said I have every right to, hes family and its my cell phone and my dad doesnt pay the cell phone bill so why should he have any say in it.

I just want to hear some of your advice on what i should say to my or should I even not say nothing to him at all, and do any of you guys have some stories like mine?

Im heartbroken by this.

First of all, I think it's just downright mean and rude that your father & uncle think you two would do anything inappropriote. He's like a brother to you from what you said...Just because you talk to him on the phone doesn't mean you guys are gonna do anything stupid.

I think you should call him. Just as your mom said, you have every right to call him. Plus, if you do contact him, I don't think they could call the cops on him. They wouldn't have a reason too...you guys live a few states away...nothing is going to happen between you two physically... Talking on the phone never hurt anyone. So I say call him. You have every right to.

^ I AGREE....

Call him! You have every right too!!
ITS SO STUPID that he would think something like that...

I wouldnt mention anything to him, like you said he isnt even in your life, even if he is your father!

But did he give you a reason why you shouldnt talk to him... ?

If he doesn't live with you and doesn't pay the phone bill (so it's not like he can look at the phone bill and see who you've been calling), then how is your father ever going to know you've been talking? Even using the internet to talk to him, how would he know if he doesn't have access to your computer? I say talk to him all you want, because like the person said above, I don't see any justifiable reason to call the police for speaking on the phone with your cousin who lives a couple of states away. Take control of your life, at least in this aspect. :)

Your father has no right saying that you cant talk to him and this about calling the cops on you on what charge? really dont let him take contral of you

I think that is the most unreasonable reason/excuse that your father and uncle could have come up with. And even after you telling them that nothing was going to happen they still did not trust you. Im sorry , but i just find this so crazy ! You have every right in the whole entire freaking world to talk to your cousin ! dont worry about your dad or your uncle , and like someone said above, its not like he's paying for your bills. PLUS he's not even living with you , and from what i can see , he prettty much does not even have that much of a role in your life, but he is still trying to make decisions for you ? that is absoletly crazy ! your cousin is family , and to think he would think there was potential for something to be going on between you two is also crazy ! Even if he calls the cops , its not like anything can happen to your cousin , i mean whats he done but talk to you ?
im glad that you have started speaking to your cousin again however :)

You don't live with your father and by the sound of it he isn't to prevalent in your life, I say talk to him if you want to. If you're not with your dad what he says doesn't really matter anyway.

I agree with all of the above. Talk to him. The only person in my family that I ever had like that passed away 7 years ago, and I still miss her. Don't let your dad dictate your life when he isn't even a part of it.