Is this healthy?

Me and my bf have been together for almost a year...the thing is, we have become one person and not two seperate people. he wants me to need his approval on something/everything before i do it and if not we fight all night long, and its weird for me because i only do that with my parents
also he is like my only friend seriously...i used to have so many but once we started dating he wanted me all to himself..and thats how its been for almost a year and i feel isolated and alone
when we argue over something..he always puts me in the wrong and never believes me when i tell the truth..he cusses me out and yells like im a child when he doesnt want to believe me...
then other nights he talks to me about marrying me and getting our own place and having a baby when we both finish college...

idk its just for me its hard to stay in this, when he makes me insecure about myself and ive never had that problem till we dated....i want to talk to a therapist but money is tight so please help me...i want to be happy again.

I think you know exactly the right answer, you just need someone to say it. If that's the case, then this is your official wake-up call: He is emotionally controlling and you are not happy in this relationship.

I'm sure there have to be reasons for why you're still with him. If you're with anyone for that long, you have deep connections to them. But really, this isn't healthy. Healthy relationships are those in which there is a partnership - when each individual can still be themselves. In fact, in good relationships people tend to feel MOST like themselves, like they don't need to change who they are in order to please the other.

I can say this because I've been in this relationship before. It never gets better, even though you want it to. You think you can change them, but that's not how it works. Even the way you are phrasing things points to there being a problem. you first say that he makes you feel insecure and puts you down, then you say "but, he wants to get married to me." In both instances it's only about what he wants. What do YOU want? Does he make you happy? Not just sometimes, when he does sweet things for you, but in the everyday, little interactions. That's where it really counts.

It sounds like you're already leaning. If you want, let this be the extra push you need, in order to be happy. There are much better relationships out there - you'd be surprised how simple and easy and happy they can be. I definitely was.

Honestly ive stayed so long because he makes me feel terrified to leave ya know...like we spend every moment together of just about every day and im scared to go back to sqaure one of being single and being alone every day and he does have good qualities but his bad ones are really big and serious.

Hun...ask yourself this...is this what you want for the rest of you life?...i know its hard...you've invested so much time and effort into this relationship...but but from what you said...he's hurting you more than he's helping. If he really loved you he wouldnt be doing this to you. True love is not selfish like that...which it what he is doing...being selfish...you count too...as for being scared of going to square one...maybe youll find that sqaure one is a lot less lonely than where you are now...your happiness is important too...not just his....if you need to talk...pm me...you dont have to do this alone.

"im scared to go back to square one of being single and being alone every day "

You are lonely and unhappy with him, at least removing yourself from the situation would give you some options. You don't get someone to stay with you and love you by controlling them and making them fear you, that's an unhealthy relationship.

He likes to be in control, and doesn't like you to change (cuz he likes the way you are/were).
you have to find a way to make him realize that you are not a puppet. (unless if you actually like being taught what to do)
most of all, i guess he really loves you to care that much about you...

"most of all, i guess he really loves you to care that much about you..."

^No no no no no no no no no! Beeeep! WRONG.

Sorry ms sibyllene, from my perspective i see that if he does not like her, he wouldnt even bother to stay with her. and care enough to tell her to ask permission (this could be a sign of him being protective). and the fact that hes talking about marriage and etc with her really supports my statement.
correct me if im wrong, as i am not a love expert.
and im not saying taht your statement could be wrong too, please do support it with fact or evidence of some sort.
^^

I was with a guy just like this for almost two years. Yes he cares about you, yes he wants a future with you, and maybe he even says that you are the best thing that has ever happened to him or anything to rationalize his actions being so overprotective bleh bleh bleh... that is just how he is. thats him as a person and you are not liking it so it wont end up working out, its just a matter of time.

IT NEVER GETS BETTER

i lost all my friends when i was with him as well, some of which i was best friends with since elementary school. They will take you back. You will have people there that love you and will always help you through a break up.

You are obvously not happy. You need to get out of the relationship. I pondered the thought of breaking up with my ex for months and months but i wish i had done it sooner than i did. Really, i know you prolly hear it all the time, its just high school and you will find someone better and you will be happier. I promise.

I think you are not in a healthy relationship!!

Your boyfriend seems to be too controlling and overpowering,he is forcing you to do things you probably don't want to do and this is really bad.

I think he is trying to erase your personality,to possess you and this is extremely selfish.

Get out of this relationship and move on,sometimes it's better to be alone than with an "abusive" person.

Britt sorry to offend you in anyway. I did not say thay the guy is doing things right, all im saying is that he loves her. (now the way he loves her can be wrong and selfish) and i guess everyone is different, he wasn't comfortable to let his gf doing things alone (incase if she gets hurt).

and you are you britt, like i said everyone can be different. your confortable with ur gf's relastion tahts only you

btw ur mums a whack! you re a very rude kid! you should never even try to offend people that you don't know, even if you can't see them.

Ok you guys, i have looked at each one of your perspectives and i have decided its not healthy..i know he loves me like ^ has said but like Britt and others have said he is overpowering...sometimes it comes down to if my purse matches my outfit or if my flipflops match too...he is controlling and he has told me that from day one...but its weird ya know because he always wants to tend to my needs...he makes sure im happy each second of the day..he worries about what i want from the store when we go out and he complains when i dont let him buy me anything and for some reason that makes me feel good and he talks about us getting an apartment everyday and he reminds me all the time how much he wants to marry me....but the thing is he is out of high school and in college and ready to settle down and yea i have one year left of High School but im not sure what i really want yet ya know....he trys so hard to see me smile yet when we have bad times they are horrible but the good times are the best...im just not sure anymore..

I understand that sometimes it is so difficult to make a decision.

It's really hard to break up with someone you love,but if you see that this relationship is going nowhere or is making you unhappy so it would be better to stop it now before it will be more and more complicated.