My lonely friend;

I have a friend who is clinically depressed. Lately he's been talking to me about how lonely he is (single) and that he wishes he had someone to love who loves him back. I'm out of words to say to him to comfort him, and my first reaction is to just stop responding to his texts and messages on MySpace. It would be easy, but when school starts back up I'll have to see him, and I also fear that he will do something stupid or commit suicide if I'm not there for him, because I know no one else is. He has a rough life... What should I do? Advice?

In my opinion, ignoring him would be one of the worst things for him. I don't know a lot about your friend, but if he relies on you to be there for him, you shouldn't turn your back because you have nothing more to say. Sometimes the best thing you can do for a person is just be there. You don't have to say anything, just be willing to listen to him. Maybe try to talk about other things that won't remind him of loneliness. If you haven't already tried this, you need to tell him that finding a girlfriend is not all life's about. He might be looking for love, but maybe he's just looking in all the wrong places. He doesn't have to have a girlfriend to be happy. Also, tell him to patient, sometimes loves finds you when you aren't looking for it or least expect it. My best advice: don't turn your back on him. Good luck!

<@> Rose

Thank you so much for the advice, I won't turn my back on him.

Well, he did admit to me once that he liked me, this was about four months ago, but I told him he really didn't because he didn't know hardly anything about me and we really didn't have much in common (which is the truth.) The thing about him is that he tries too hard to find someone, and he says he likes a new girl every month, so I really can't say I believe who he likes anymore. He's past the point of dropping hints, he's reaching out in desperation, I suppose. It's just really frustrating to me, because I feel like I have to be his therapist and I'm a kid and still trying to help myself with my own problems, and now I have to worry about his too. It's all very overwhelming. And I do suppose I sound a bit selfish right now, and like I'm a terrible friend, but the truth is we aren't best friends, we're really more of aquaintances.

By you being there for him and you helping with his problems, you may be the only good friend he has. Even though you dont feel very close to him, maybe he feels close to you. Turning your back on him would be the worst thing to do. You dont really have to always give him advice and be a therapist, just be someone he can say hey to or talk about every day things.
and i totally agree with the person that posted right after your origional post. Help him realize that life isnt all about finding a girlfriend. He has to be happy with himself before he can make anyone else happy.

I think this guy suffer a lot from being alone,so he desperately needs someone to talk to,to share some moments.

In my humble opinion,don't forsake him,try your hardest to be there for him,listen to him,and advise him whenever you can do so.

But you should be clear with him that you are just friends and so you'll stay.

Good luck.

Thank you for your words, I just found out he is moving and that's why he has been upset lately. Since I have moved before, I can relate to him and try and help him as best as I can with the process. Thanks again.