I dontk now..

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so anyways..
i've been friends with this guy for about 2 years.. we met thru friends parties whatever you want to call it..well we statrted dating since he lived in a differnt city we only got to see each other once every 2-3 months.. i could deal with it cuz we talked and textd alot.. thing is appenrently he couldnt .. as of may i was buzy after my bday and what not with schoo, exams and family... so i put off every date we had...few days before our next date which i was sure i was to make, he broke up.. the thing is he still wants to be friends... he still wants to meet up freequetly .. my friends thinks iits for frenids with benifits ... and i kinda think that im just not sure... i want some opions..

i think i have more tooo add will finish later.

Well if you're not sure if he's sincere about being friends or if he's looking for benefits, I would be blunt with him about it. Ask him straight up what the deal is, and make it very clear that you're not going to be friends and meet up with him if that's what he has in mind, and if he assures you he only wants to be friends and nothing more, give him one more warning that if he ever tries to pull anything, you're never seeing or speaking to him again. That's what I would do. :)

Of course, you may find that as you meet up and stay friends that your relationship blooms again, but I'm not sure if that's what you want.

Don't give him any benefits and see how long it lasts.

^^ I agree. I couldn't tell you whether he genuinely wants to be just friends or if he thinks it's a "friends with benefits". Don't give him any of the benefits & just see how long he'll last. For some, they loose their "wits end" right away, while others can be quite patient. With that said, I think the important question is whether or not you still have feelings for him? If he is only in it for the benefits & you still have feelings for him, would you just give in? It may be hard for you to maintain a strictly friend-based relationship if you still have feelings for him.

^completly agree, i say, meet up with him the first time, if he trys anything walk away, leave him in the dust. and if it gose well, then keep seeing him once in wile, be his friend, he wasnt down for a long distance relationship, not everyone can handle it and you cant hold that against him. So give him a chance to be your friend

Okay, I tihink that realyl knocked some sense into my head. I guess I am willing to give him a chance of friendship with no benfits, and yeah i still do have feelings for him.. I might be seeing him on monday if it doesnt rain ( one main problem that held us bak)

So i went to meet up with him. I was up in his area cyz thats where we planend to meet. he never showd up , i talked to him on msn that night and he said that his dad had his phone and it was 'raining ( we dont usually meet up when it is) I had a gitf for him i ended up taking along but throwing out cuz he didnt show, He says he's really sorry and feels really bad about it. He wants to meet again before school starts should I give it another chance?

That's up to you.

I dont see anything wrong about giving him chances to be your friend and nothing more. He didnt show and you went up to his area, well from now on, untll he can prove himself to be more prominent on his schedule, arrange it to be in your area so you dont waste the time and money to go to his area. In my opinion, he hasnt givin too much of a reason for you not to be his friend, and still if he trys anything, just knee him where it hurts and walk away.