I'm adopted

Most know but I'm pretty sure everyone on this site doesn't.
I was taken away from my parents at age 4 and still remeber them.
Now there are few people in my lfie that know that my sister and I were molested by my father and his friends for the first few years of our life.
I'm not at all open about what happened but telling people my story can help me and others.
I have difficulties trusting people, I tend to fall into bad things, I have anger problems and I'm a cry baby which as my therapist says is directly related to my parents physical, sexual and mental abuse.
My sister on the other hand has not dealt with the molestation. She bottled it up in her mind and often times denies it even happened when we are sure she remebered because when we finally told somebody she remebered then.
I hope by telling my story I can begin getting closure on what happened.

I was molested too, from age eight to eleven, but I don't even think about it anymore because I've learned not to let it control my life and decisions. You can't keep it bottled up and pretend like it didn't happen, because it did. You can't change or deny your past. But you also can't sit there and say that because you were molested, you're (for example) into drugs/alcohol. No, you're into drugs/alcohol because you've allowed yourself to become weak. Instead of allowing yourself to fall into bad things and/or have issues with trusting, walk tall, be strong, and don't let it ruin your life. What helped me was realizing that I didn't want to give my grandfather the satisfaction that he destroyed me. And you need to also realize that just because one person that was supposed to be close to you has violated your trust, it doesn't mean every person or man will do that to you. I'm not saying trust everyone, but don't push everyone away. I guess that's all I can say on the matter.

P.S. - I didn't go to any therapist. Sometimes you can't even trust THEM.

If I were in you situation, I would have trust issues too girl!! And thats ok! Thats the meaning of the word learn..You have to learn to trust people. Sure its not easy and it takes time, but that life! Youre not a cry baby. If your therapist thinks so then let her get a load of my life! HA! What youve been through isnt easy and even though it may not seem like it, therapy might be good for you. ITs good for people and not so great for others, but I dont know you. I hope that your sister will realize that talking about it DOES help! Things will get better! Send me a message anytime girl!

I was in your situation too, and I kept it in denial for a very long time....
Until you get to a breaking point, and things went down for me.... But I spoke to a therapist and it really helped... I spoke to 4 different ones, until I picked one I liked, I couldnt have a male therapist because of my history and I found a very nice lady...
If you dont like the therapist change, until you feel comfortable...
But give it a chance, I know it helped me alot! And I knew that is what I needed, and now I am much better....
Good Luck to you!!

PM me anytime....

Take care...