Boyfrends,porn,hurt feelings.....

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Well he hasnt always looked at it and i dont mind if he looks at it now and then jus as long its not all the time. we have told each other the truth and weve always talked bout everything together but things have been different lately. and the fact that he hides it form me and dosnt answer my ?s and with the changes thats been happening dose make me ask what els is he hiding what els dont i no.

thank you for the advise

Are these girls that he himself took pictures of, or just plain porn?

If he's actually TAKING pictures of naked girls, then obviously he's wrong and that's a problem.

However, if he's just looking at porn then I wouldn't worry about it. He's really not doing anything wrong- and he's allowed to have privacy, you don't need to monitor what he's watching or how often.

It would be different if he was repeatedly picking porn over you. But like he told you, you're far away, and therefore he probably watches it more often than he normally would. Not a big deal really, I wouldn't worry about it if I were you.

Leave the guy alone! he watches porn so freaking what, what guy doesn't?!?! jesus some guys do it because their bored others because of stress others cuz of this and that, just tell him he can tell you anything, and that u just wanna see what he sees in it that you only want to understand don't be looking over his shoulder now at least stand next to him and have a clear look on the IDEA of why he watches it, nothing worse then a girl on your back about something almost every guy does, and trust me YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL TO HIM those girls he sees below it all he knows they are all sluts and have nothing in life. Give the guy some slack, haha if u can try to find out of he pays for any of it, be yourself when u ask this... and understanding if he says yes try to get his password and send it to me xD hahaha jk jk if he pays for porn then idk... it might be an addiction

OK, when i was still married, I deployed to Iraq, and yeah, i had,(and still do have) alot of porn. that i really didnt watch when i was around my wife, becouse I didnt need too. the thing is, dont make a big deal out of him jerking off to porn when hes not around you becouse its better then him cheating on you right? and no, just becouse a man watches porn or has a lot of pics of porn dosent make them a perv, and it dosnt mean that he wants you to be anything like them. He wants to get off and gets bord of watching the porn everyday, so he keeps a varity of things to watch. Also, just becouse you think the other girls are prettier, A)dosnt mean he dose, and B) theyre supposed to be every mans fantasy, its what they are paid to do. simple has that. I doupt he would take a girl up on her offer becouse hes got porn to jerk off to. If anything you should be happy he has porn becouse that means he wont need to go and find another girl for his sexual desires. and hey, I spend hours a day watching porn amanda, lol, dosent mean im addicted, im in iraq, so it means i have nothing better to do lol,

Personally, I don't agree with porn watching b/c it's demeaning but if m partner was being honest about it and not hiding it from me then I wouldn't be as hurt.

All guys watch porn. The amount and time is the real issue here. Don't read too much into it unless it's constant and when you're around, that shouldn't happen. But if he does it when he's alone and your nowhere to be found that is normal. It doesn't have anything to do with how much he loves you or cares for you or whether he is more willing to cheat on you.

I don't watch porn. I never will. I find it degrading, and I feel that it's as much a problem as drugs are, and just as addicting. it objectifies women, and it changes the way most guys see women. not to mention it's all fake anyway. it's all photoshopped to look "better" than the real deal. unfortunately too many people are addicted to it. sorry, i know this won't help at all, i just had to say it. :/