He Was My First....

me and my ex boyfriend were together for a year and 5 months. we had sex. alot. and then i found out that he cheated on me with my bestfriend wen they were high. then a lil while later i found out that he slept with his ex and then tonight ( even though were ot togethr) i found out about 2 other girls. he told me i was his first but i was his 5 th and we had been thru many pregnacy scares and he told both my mom and his mom that i was his 1st but now i know that our whole relationship was based on a lie i dont know what to do bc i wanted to be back 2gether with him but now im not sure and he has a new gf anyway. but im jus scared that i might have sum disease and not know it.
are all guys like this or is it jus a couple of them bc now i dont think i ever want to be in another seriouse relationship again i know thats pathetic.'
why did he have to lie to me in the 1st place???
well i just had to get all this off my chest b4 i break down so thanks to who ever is reading this...
and if you would post something back please?

ARE ALL GUYS LIKE THIS ??????

we have had unprotected sex we always pulled out but sometimes a lil spilled out. i dont have any signs of a diseas but its just creepy not knowing who ur REALLY sleeping with.

thanks and i just hope this NEVER happens again bc he is the ONLY guy i EVER slept with. he was my 1st but i guess that means NOTHING to him thanks for listening...

No it means something

You forget your second, third and fourth but always remember your first just hold onto the memories but try to move on :o)

Fell free to email me Paulette :o) We can discuss further if you like xoxox

no not all men are that way takes time to find a guy who wont act liek a immature little boy.if u belive you may have a disease you need to be checked cause it is true soem disease do not have symptoms.good luck

*SEXUAL EDUCATION 101:

"Pulling out" is not a sufficient form of birth control!!!!! It doesnt matter if he cums in you or not, pre-ejaculate has semen in it, and it only takes ONE SPERM to get you pregnant.

The ONLY way to ensure that you stay DISEASE FREE and BABY FREE is ABSTINANCE.

That said, always use condoms, especially so young. I dont care if its supposedly monogamous, this situation only goes to show what lying cheats guys can be, and women can be too.

You have to live with these consequences for the rest of your life, so make these decisions for YOU and your health. Not the happiness of your lover.

To answer your question not all guys are lying, scum of the earth, assholes with nothing better to do than lie. How old was this guy?

Some are, and you need to protect yourself physically and emotionally. I hope you learned something, and get yourself tested SOONER THAN LATER. Go to planned parenthood, its confidential. Many diseases are "dormant" and you may not know you have them for months or even years, yet they can affect your overall health and you can spread the disease to others.

wel this guy was 15. and i really apreciate the comments and support. i understand that pulling out is not the most effective way but i only did it w/o a condom b/c he wanted to. Which i agree was REALLY stupid. im probally gonna regret this tho. well thanks you very much and all these coments hae made me feel a lil bit better. so thanks alot every one!!!

OK. 1 more little rant:

IF A GUY SAYS HE DOESNT WANT TO USE A CONDOM CUT HIM OFF TOTALLY. Its unsafe for you, and even him, but mostly you:

BECAUSE HE'S NOT THE ONE WHO HAS TO LIVE WITH THE PHYSICAL AND EMOTIONAL RAMIFICATIONS FOR THE REST OF HIS LIFE!!!

Guys are full of shit when it comes to that, and ALWAYS INSIST ON A CONDOM. It doesnt matter if it:

*Feels better for him
*Will feel better for you
*His dick is too big for it (lmao)
*He doesnt have one on him, but REALLY wants it bad anyway
*He is STD free
*He will pull out and you cant get pregnant
*He cant get a girl pregnant
*You wont really "connect" if he uses one.

BULLSHIT. Tell him to sack it or whack it.

sack it or wack it... i like that. lol but were broken up so im happy now but i dont know when or if i can talk to my mom about this so she can take me to get tested what is the easiest way to talk to ur mom bout this/????

Planned parenthood is free. Take some of your friends and take the bus. They can also get you contraception for free or for a reduced rate. They have all the information that you need about sex without judgement or relgious influence. It is private and it is true. Go there and check it out, get tested as soon as possible.

well thanks but im not aloud to take the bus i will jus have 2 find a friend that i trust to take me. thanks for the advice and the guy i was talking about ... ummm.... never mind. hes an a$$!!