So wat would YOU do?

So I have known this guy for over 5 years and he is the sweetest and most understanding guy I have ever met and we have had a little history that goes back and forth but now we are finally official and together. Hes 27 (im almost 21) he has a good job, he just got his own NICE place, he is a very intellegent guy, really good sense of humor, biggest heart and will do anything to make someone happy/smile...BUT one thing that isnt so perfect.

when he was 2 his dad commited suiside because he found out he had HIV so his mom went and got checked and found out she herself had it...so she took my BF to get checked and he ALSO had it from birth ='( his mom died when he was 10 and lived with his aunt (which is my best friends mom) and uncle.

Well heres the thing...im VERY attracted to him he makes me happy and i DO love him but i have never had sex with him or done risky business like oral without protection...and im scared to. I feel bad that im scared to because its not HIS fault. He knows what hes doin sexually and hes a good kisser but im just not turned on by him and i think its because of his situation. what do you think i should do? I dont date for the fun of it i wanna date someone that i eventually can marry and have a family with and i know i cant that with him..whats your advice or thoughts guys?

My most honest and heartfelt advice is to be his friend and no more. Friendship goes a long way and it doesn't mean you care about him any less, but being friends is probably doing what's best for you.

It's too dangerous to be in a relationship with him. You won't be able to get what you want with him which is a family in the future. Your kids would have HIV. The relationship isn't going to go very far and since you know that, I think it's better to end it now than go on any further.

Sorry, it's probably not what you wanted to hear, but it's the truth, and the truth hurts. Good luck.

The thing is he is sooo depressed about it all the time but hides it VERY well and if he didnt tell u u you never know and wen he told me he had HIV i told him i already knew(my best friend told me) he said so y r u still with me? i kinda expect u 2 leave me... it broke my heart..i hate breakin up with ppl without tellin them the complete truth and in this case I CANT! i wanna b with him but idk how it can ever work =[ i know i should end it i just dont know how! i love him but know i shouldnt =[ idk this is really hard =/

If it were me, I wouldn't do anything but stand still. I am at the stage, where it is impossible for me to hurt people...even if it is for both of our best intrests. hopefully, you already have that strength, or you find it along the way.