Lies to tell...

Hey everyone... i need help!!!

i have a girlfriend, and her parents dont let us see each other... not even at school, her dad teaches in the school , and he puts spies on her so we cant see each other, and everytime we find an idea, or try to see each other somehow... we get caught... and we both get in trouble!!!

we both love each other,.... but i need help in lies she could tell her parents so we can at least see each other

Oh my gosh i've been doing the same thing and i only manage when i go off with my friends or one of them that my parents trust and usually go with them to meet him its really juvenile but its worked a couple times

She would do well to talk to her parents about the situation rather than lie about what she's doing.

^ I agree.

You can't keep running away from your problems. One of these days, you're going to have to talk to her parents might as well do it now.

Good luck!

Also, lying is bound to only make your situation worse when the two of you are caught in the act; this lie. It's only a matter of time. And whatever reasons her parents have for not letting the both of you see each other will be, in their minds, confirmed.

And I agree with what Britt said. You're not seriously going to try to convince her or encourage her to lie to her parents are you? You don't really want to come between her, her parents & their relationship or cause any ill feelings such as mistrust, disappointment, resentment, etc. between them do you? They're her parents. They love her too and they don't want to lose her either.

Alright homie. I was in the same situation with my now ex wife when we were just dating. Her mom still HATES ME to this very day for everything. She hated me when we where dating, hated me when I married her, hated me when we divorced, hates the fact that im the father of her grand daughters, she just hates everything about me (Shes a roman catholic and I was a Pagan during this time) but do what i did, stand up to them. I never once lied to her mom, ever (except about sex, she thought her daughter was a virgin untill we got married) anyways, be honest with them and stand up and make them relieze that you love her and that she loves you. I disagree that this whole thing about you not being allowed to see her is a sign to just break it off with her, thats retarded, its a test, true love will stand above all objections, end of story, so really its a test, and dude, im telling you, its time for you to lay the poker chips on the table. This is what you do, catch her dad after one of his classes, and dont tell her about this either untill after its done, and just talk to him about the whole thing, make him relize that he was once young and in love, and ask him what he would do if he was told he wasnt allowed to see his wife again. dont continue to sneak around, its time to man up and take control of the situation, not hide from it. Im sure if nothing else, youl receive alot more respect from him then by tring to convience his daughter to lie to him. :)

^^^ He does have a good point, though. Talk to the parents about it. If you are legit, they will be able to see that you are respectful and sincere. However, my hopes aren't very high considering you're so set on sneaking around. With that approach, they can only be expected to not trust you.

Atcually she asked me to help her come up with an idea!!! it was her idea to lie!!! and i'm just asking for help on an idea, coz i ran out of ideas!

Thanks everyone

^ No matter who's foot fits the glass slipper, you shouldn't be enabling or encouraging her. If you truly love her you wouldn't ask her to lie to her parents, and you have said that you didn't, but you also wouldn't enable or encourage her to lie either.

What I & others have said still applies to you. Because that's how her parents are going to see it; as you enabling or encouraging her. In the end, it's always going to come back to you. And the end results of that will be just as consequential.

Alternative approach: Convince her & encourage her to confront her parents about the situation.

I just want to emphasize, again, that she should be the one to talk to her parents. Not you. I'm not sure how long the two of you have been dating, by the sounds of things (the both of you being in school, her living with her parents & their strickness) it hasn't been long (but if it has been longer please tell me), but either way it's not your business. This is between her & her parents. She can talk to them about how she's been feeling & even about how you've been feeling, but you being there or being the one to bring it up is only bound to make you & your situation even further look bad. It raises so many questions.

^I actually kind of disagree. I mean, she should definitely talk to her parents, no argument there, but I think he ends up looking even more disreputable by slinking around. If he were to present himself to her parents like a responsible human, willing to have a conversation, it would show that he was mature and had nothing to hide. Of course, based on his posts I don't see that being the case...

^ If they've been together for so many years as a common law couple or if they're married, more specifically, I could see why he'd feel the need to get involved. But not if they're only boyfriend & girlfriend and if they've only been dating for a short while.

I don't see it as him "slinking" around, being irresponsible or immature, but rather him minding his own business & respecting theirs. If I were her parents I would be raising a lot of questions: "Why is it any of your business?", "Why are you telling this to me and not my daughter?", etc.

I've been with my boyfriend for over 4 years, living together for several, and I even don't allow him to get involved in problems I or my parents have with each other. It's our business. But when we're married, and my mother's putting me down, I do expect him to stand by my side and up for me.