I don't know the right decision..

I'm in the my first year of college. I went from a small school to a community college an hour away from home. None of my close friends go here so I went out and met knew friends.

Coming form a small school and everyone knew your business guys weren't really interested in me but I wasn't interested in any of them. So by coming here when I got attention from a guy I went for it. A guy who lived in my apartment building and I started talking. I soon realized after a day it wasn't really worth it. He was into drugs and drank way too much. His roommates friend added me after I met him at party and we kinda started talking. Eventually exchanged numbers and then hit it off. We were basically the same person agreed on everything and talked all the time. The first weekend we hung out he talked about his ex the whole time. I decided we were going too fast and went back home like my plan was. Well we still hit it off for three weeks. Never became official just hung out and spent a lot of time talking.

The typical college sleep overs happend and then one night I left a party and he said he would be up earlier. He never came so I texted him the next morning. He told me that it wasn't going to happen anymore. I was pretty upset. We still hung out but not as much. Now 3 weeks later I found out the reason we ended things. He slept with another girl. I was mad but then realized we weren't even together officially. That weekend before I found out he texted me on Sunday and was calling me hun. After that I found out he "cheated" on me as one would say. I of course got mad at him and yelled at him. I tried talking to him after that to be friends and he told me we were not dating and he didn't need talk to me.

This weekend he was over at my apartment complex. I saw him Friday and we said hi but that's about it. I invited him and his friend to a party but they declined. Then Saturday night I saw him again. We went to the same party said hi and then went our seperate ways. He texted me later in the night but that was about it. Then around 3 I got a phone call from his friends girlfriend asking if he could stay at our place. He had gotten locked out of the apartment he was supposed to stay at and they were out of town. So around 4 he came up here to sleep on our couch. We ended up talking till 6, he was telling me stuff he never told anyone. He left in the morning with out saying bye which was ok. So I texted him tellng him to have fun at the twins game. He started to make convo with me.

All my friends tell me not to go back and I know. But they also tell me not to even talk to him. I have no idea what to do. I obviously still have feelings for him but don't trust him as much as I used to. But what if he still likes me? I have no idea what to do about this situation.

Honestly I hate to say this but I don't really think he was interested in u I think if he liked u he wudnt not have slept w another girl he declines when u invite him and calls u hun most me are honest and sweet and in reality they want to get laid how can u trust someone you have never been w and for him to say yall not together I wud just move on he didn't give u the time of day playn mind games w u and sleeping around doesn't sound like a good guy at all I'd just move on wudnt worry bout him I know u are hurt and upset believe me love can be tricky I wudnt even talk to him I hope things get better for u good luck girl!!

Honestly, I think he's just trying to get laid. He probably just recently broke up with his ex and now feels like having fun and just getting laid. I don't think you should be mad at him for sleeping with that girl anyways, you weren't together and it shows what kind of guy he is. Why would he even call you hun on the phone? He's just trying to sound sweet and make you like him.

I don't think you know enough about him. Maybe give it some time...if you want but I think you should just move on. He's trying to find a rebound.

Yea I've tried moving on but as soon as I move on there is he popping back into my life.

Thanks for the advice. And like I tell all my friends I will never go back to him unless he dramatically wakes up a new person. Which will NEVER happen.

I just hate how my roommates and friend get mad at me if I give him the time of day.

Thanks.. but it's hard not to be their as a friend because he messed up his freshma year and knows no one here. He's also going through a hard time here and trusts no one.

Well.. he texted me tonight. Wanted to know if I was drinking.. i asked why he said ha idk i might head over that way after work.. I said well let me know if you do you can try one of my cookies.

Well he's here and has not texted me. O well you guys are right.
But what am I supposed to do, his grandpa died yesterday. I wanna be there for him but I don't want to feel used anymore.

You are very right!! I'm glad you told me this. Thursday night he's coming to our apt.. I'm going to avoid him at all costs if i he says something I'm going to be like I'm tired of playing this game. You text me and then don't respond once i respond... and then at 3 in the morning when you're outside you call me to go out and look at the snow. Of course I did because of the snow but did he want to see me or something. He's got issues and needs to work them out.