My friend

Me and my bestfriend have been friends for quite a while. Him and I can talk about anything. He was there for me through some really rough times in my life.. Well a while back he told me that he liked me and I told him that I only thought of him as a friend. Well he was cool with that and it didnt effect our friendship at all. We are still really good friends. Well here recently he has been sorta persistant on wanting something more. Like he has never been rude or anything.. Just saying that I need a good man in my life like him and stuff like that. I just want to get across to him that I just like him as a friend and nothing more without hurting his feelings or ruiningour friendship. How do I do that and what am I supposed to say? Thank you for your help

suicidalkansas

He's pressuring you isn't he. If a guy is like that towards you, that means, that you got as close to him as it gets when it comes to being friends. Probably to close. You're probably spending to much time together, and he sees you as his next girl. If you don't want to hurt his feelings, then you should just keep doing what you do at a friendly state. You need to tell him how you see him as a friend, or something. Tell him how you feel. That's all I can say. Not good enough advice, I know. I did try though.

Hope everything work out okay:)

He really isnt pressuring me. He just says some things sometimes. He is a great guy. Like he has never came onto me in any kind of physical way. I just moved 1000 miles away from him and Im planning on going back and he keeps telling me that he wants me to be with him all the time. I have this bad habit of always picking the worst of guys and he says that he wants to show me what a good man I can have. How he will treat me with so much respect and stuff like that. We talk everynight over msn and stuff. Should I back off a little. I have told him that I only feel a friendship. Nothing more. I know he knows how I feel but he still tells me. Its not like he is being disrespectful about it though.. Thank you for your help. More would be appreciated.

suicidalkansas

If you feel like you should back off a little, then you probably should. You says he's not being disrespectful about it, so then you should probably just back off. You don't want to give him the wrong understanding, right. Spending alot of time with someone, will give them the wrong understanding. Being nice to each other all the time, and never having any arguments, would probably make someone see otherwise. You know what I mean. Cheering someone up whenever they're down, and spending alot of time with them, and always talking even when you're not in person will make them feel like, "well maybe she has a thing for me". I hope you understood this post. Wish you well:)