Iam so much confused...

  • Xx Alone in my Quandary xX
    15 years ago

    Its such a long story but i'll tell u bit of it...
    Few days back my Fiance read one of my poem.. ( He copied it while copying my pictures when he was at my place)... we are having long distance relationship..
    Anyway my poem is totally emotional sort of, in which i used abusive vocabulary and basically it was about how much messed up me and my life is and in which i wasn't sure whom to choose..either the one i love or the one with whom iam gona be the rest of my life..
    (I wrote that poem when i was 17 and its been 2 years.. At that time i didn't even know that i'll be with him...)
    Now the thing is he isn't replying my texts, messages at all..he said me not to call him for a while, he thinks i have been with someone else... I told him that whatever i wrote was in past and it was all because of the frustration and the difficulties i have been through.. That is so true, Home sickness, College routine, New friends, Ex-room mate feud, and even my grandmother died and i didn't get the chance to see her. So at that time i was all messed up, The poetry was only source through which i used to vent out all my rage and pain..
    I told him i have never been in relation with any one.. I had crush but i never had anything..
    and now when iam engaged why would i do so...
    If i trust him so much i expect the same from him. But he has been torturing me by saying things like that we are different, the way we see things is different, our priorities are different. In fact we are different.. He is ignoring me as if i committed dunno which sort of crime.. Having crush isn't crime.. or is it? i told him what matters the most is present.. Why should i be sorry for what i didn't do?or should i be?
    but the way he is treating me is killing me..

  • Xx Alone in my Quandary xX
    15 years ago

    Its not that easy ... I called him today just once though, but he didnt pick the phone and neither called me back..
    I texted him and iam still waiting for his responce but iam totally hopeless now.. The way he is behaving is hurting every inch of me.. I can not even meet him because he is in Uk while m in China (because of my studies)..
    I just cant imagine to live without him, what i expected from him was trust and this is what doesnt exist at all.. He isnt telling me anything .. How m i suppose to know that whats bugging him or what is in his mind... Its so hard to keep this long distance relation.. He has always been nice n so mature and wise.. Idk why now he is acting this way....

  • sibyllene
    15 years ago

    People in love are idiots sometimes. He really really shouldn't be shutting himself off like that - especially if you are engaged. Being married requires honesty and partnership. It might not necessarily be the end of the world, though. He might just be being illogical, as lovers tend to be sometimes. Ride it out, for now. Either he will realize he's being stupid, or he won't, in which case you are better off without him. Don't let yourself feel guilty, though.

  • Xx Alone in my Quandary xX
    15 years ago

    So what should i do? Give him the time he wants? Iam scared what if he doesnt realise his mistake?? And i feel bad because i have been thinking just about him and he is acting all mean..

  • Em
    15 years ago

    You should just leave him to it. If he doesn't call you then forget about him and move on and if he does then say nothing more about this poem.
    I hope it works out though.

  • BeatsMe
    15 years ago

    Hes your fiance and hes ditching you over some 2 year old poems? Thats a load of crap if you ask me. If hes seriously going to ignore you and give you this crap over some poetry imagine if you two are married and something of actual importance occurs. Id rethink the whole fiance thing. Give him his space and stop trying to contact him, he obviously doesnt want to talk since hes ignoring you so wait until he makes it clear he feels like talking again. Dont let his hissy fit bring you down girl.

  • Clown
    15 years ago

    One thing I can say for the non poeticaly inclined is that most things come to them at face value, we cannot subjectly insult someone who dosnt understand a poets way of thinking and writing has being deeper then suface. Another thing I would like to add is the fact that a long distance relationship imediatly comes with trust issues, but without evidence people normally just block it out or ignore the thoughts, (or theyre doing it too, so they just dont care) So to him, reading that poem, hes not sure if your lying about when you wrote it or not, and to him thats evidence enoph to bring the full thought of you cheating on him into play, all those trust issues are proven correct in his eyes right now and you first need to give him some time to consider everything before you start trying to convince him of the truth. give him space for now, just text him once in a while letting him know that you still love him and you miss him and that your waiting for him, that way he can kind of see that your respecting his need for distance, but still want to prove to him that your not or never have cheated on him. All this is advice, take it for what its worth. good luck

  • kla
    15 years ago

    You neeed to tell him the sstory beihind the poem! that would be terribkle to lose him over that):

  • MERCY is never shown
    15 years ago

    Explain everything to him and then let him go and if its meant to be he'll come back everything happens for a reason i know this sounds cheesy and cliche but it's really the only way to find out what you both need to know sometimes a little time apart is best