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I think you'll probably feel uncomfortable arround your current boyfriend. Even if you don't think he'd ever abuse you like your dad and previous ex (I'm sorry about that btw! That sucks! :( ) I think, as long as you're with your current boyfriend, you'll always be questioning him, judging him, seeing if he will treat you the same... in my opinion, you should find a guy that you feel completely comfortable AND safe with.

My two cents, take em for what their worth.
..Ashes..

My brother and sister are in AA, and my dad used to get drunk and abuse my mom, but that was a long time ago and all 3 of them totally changed.

Is it just him being intoxicated that threatens you/ makes you insecure in general? Or is he a BAD drunk and you see the same signs.

I would tell him how you feel and see what his reaction is. If he cares about you he will stop, and if he doesnt then you know he doesnt care enough about how you feel to be with you.

However not all drinkers are drunks, and not all intoxicated people are violent.

Hmmm. Well that kind of would indicate that he doesnt care about your feelings, maybe it would be better for you to move on, or go to couples counceling, or you could go to counceling yourself and try to move past your problem and the association with alcohol to battery. Maybe you could ask that he not drink in front of you or that he not be intoxicated while around you, if he wants to drink one night he needs to stay at his house or a friends and honor your feelings. If he cares about you he will try to help you feel better.