Am I In The Wrong!?<3

Okay so my use to be best friend is talking to the same guy im talking to. Only difference is shes still in love and physically connected & currently living at her ex boyfriends house. The guy wants to ONLY remain friends with her, but wants to be with me.

Am i wrong for liking him and going for him!?

& is she wrong for leading him on because shes still involved in every way with her ex?

Okay, put it in perspective. Is it worth losing your best friend for a "guy you are talking to"? If your best friend is worth that little to you, then go for it. If she is worth more than that to you, then don't. Simple.

Ps. I wish I could bold the word "best" for you.

I honestly think back and cant recall on a time shes been a "best" friend to me...So maybe i should reword the first post huh...

I just don't understand why she would lead on the other guy & be so involved with her ex...

Well your "best" friend is obviously confused and doesn't know what she wants. She needs to stop playing around and figure out who she wants to be with.

If you want to be with him then I suggest talking to your friend and see what she thinks about it. If you think it's worth ruining a friendship then go for it but maybe your friend wouldn't mind...

She hates me for it, but he already told me he doesn't want a relationship with her, he just wants to be her friend and that is it. Every relationship that I've had she pretty much ruined =/. & she tries to act like my mom telling me what i should and shouldn't do...

Well I don't know if a GUY is worth ruining a friendship. If he doesn't want to start a relationship with your friend then maybe he should stop talking to her so your friend would stop crushing on him...

AND if she's been ruining like every relationship you've had with a guy, why are you even friends with her in the first place??

From that it sounds like, if and when you were friends, the friendship has been over for quit some time. But I agree. If you're saying that she's not your friend simply because of this situation, you shouldn't (and nor should she) put a guy between the two of you and before your friendship.

A true friend wouldn't let that come between the two of you; she doesn't sound like a "true friend". From what you tell us of her past, this should come as no surprise to you. You should cut all ties with her. She just seems to create drama. You'll be better off with out her and your life will be less complicated. You can make new and better friends.

No, you are not in the wrong at all for liking the same guy she does and for wanting to "[go] for him", whether you were ex friends or not. You don't "owe" her anything. She's already in a relationship with someone. He told you that he wants to be with you and told her he just wants to be friends. He made his decision. She's going to have to get over that. He's not some trophy to be fought over or won and you certainly can't call dibs on him. That's immature. But apparently she's still in first grade; she's a child. She can see that you've got a "new toy". Now she's crying, "Mine, mine, mine!" and grabbing at anything her little fingers can wrap around. The difference between her and a child is that a child doesn't know better, she does and that's just pitiful. Like ricebunny said, she doesn't know what she wants... But, he does. And you do.

If she's causing so much dilemma over this, he should stop talking to her. Whenever he does talk to her she might mistake that as him coming on to her. And if being friends with him just isn't enough for her, he should just cut all ties with her including "friendship", otherwise it's a little one-sided.

Date whoever you want. If you like him and he likes you too, then don't let anyone come between you.

84 children britt i love that lol

thank you for everyones imput! :] it means a lot gathering information from an outsiders point of view :]<3

Ok well i do think your friend or whatever is in the wrong if she is still involved with someone i don't think she should be going after him especially just to hurt you and i dont really think you are because if your single and care about or want him then yeah you should go for it

Ah. Sounds alot like the situation I'm in with a used to be friend. I don't know how your friend acts, but mine is the type that creates physical and emotional bonds with multiple guys and then when one of them starts to like me or vice-versa, she has a hissy fit and starts a whole bunch of drama. (Last time she even went as far to write a whole bunch of really mean things on my car with window chalk when I was at a concert.) Currently, I'm not talking to her and have no plans of changing that anytime. Hopefully your friend isn't as immature as mine is and nothing like that will happen to you.

But I'd say go for it if you really like him. If she gets mad at you for it when she's still involved with her ex, that just shows her immaturity. This isn't the first grade. She can't call dibs especially when she's already involved with someone else. Besides, that's not fair to either guy.