I need help .

Im totally confused about this guy .
(regular teenaged girl problems , so if you dont want to read , you dont have to .)

anyways ,
ive been friends with this guy named andrew and weve been friends , or we had been friends until about a month ago .
i met him in grade four , and during then , he used to draw me pictures and cute little things like that .
im not going to lie , but im totally in love with him . i find myself thinking about him when i should be thinking about something more important .

and last year , he asked me out on valentines day (soo cute) . and i said yes , how could i not ?.
and then , not even two hours later , he asks me if i want to break up , which didnt make sense at all . but i ended up telling him that i did want to break up only because i thought that was what he wanted , turns out , thats not what he wanted .
an hour after we "break up" , i found out that he's asked out my best friend , and that she had said yes .
so i got mad and yelled at her .

but since then , hes been doing all this flirting with me and every time he's tried to ask me out again , i hear that he already has another girlfriend or that he has a date with one .

well , last month , we've completely stopped talking .
he doesnt say one word to me at all .
we have two classes together , and when my friend asked him why doesnt talk to me , he says that he never sees me , which is basically a lie .

i need to know what to do .
he knows that i like him , alot .
but another problem is that he has a girlfriend , and i dont get the point of their relationship , they only ever talk on msn and they dont ever see each other .

i need to know how i can be as close to him as i once was .
i miss him even more than i can say .

If he was into you he wouldn't be going out with everyone else and if you were that into him you would eventually go find out what's up yourself. the longer you just tag along after him the more you hurt yourself in the end.

ONe thing that might determine how I feel aout your situaition, whats his faith? If hes a christian then his way of doing things makes no sence and sounds more like hes trying to be a player, but if hes a pagan, well they dont have a concept of menogomy before hand fasting. You need to take these things into concideration to some point. I used to be a pagan, and wile i was single, I had 5 or 6 girl friends at once, and they all had 3 or 4 bfs. its just kind of the way they do things, and to them, there is nothing wrong with it at all. Im not defending his actions, just wanting you to understand that theres many differnt point of veiws to look at. next time you talk to him, if you talk to him, ask him about his faith, you might be surprised to find that he dosnt look at relationships in the same light has the rest of the world. I know that the whole religion thing was never apart of my previous advice to other individuals, but for some reason I never thought abouit it.

Also, if you just want to get close to him again, call him up and ask if he wants to just hang out some time.

Thank you for your input .
but this guy doesnt follow any sort of religion .
and considering what you've said , i think he might just want to act like a player .

but no matter what i try , he's always there in the back of my head .
whenever i hear a song on the radio or anything , he's the one i think of first . it's been this way since sometime last year .
i really wish i could stop thinking abouut him and just keep him as a really close friend . but im afraid that if i get really close to him again , i'll end falling head over heals over , again .

I perfectly understand you,it's really hard!!
Try to stop taking so much notice of how you feel,try to get your life back in order and be wary of sweet talkers,he may be a player so don't fall in his trap.

If you are sad you won't stay that way for much longer,so try to maintain a state of inner stillness as a way of giving yourself some space to assess the whole issue.