How soon is too soon?

Alrighty, I'll spill. I'm 17 years old, and my boyfriend just recently turned 20 years old. We've known each other for almost 4 years, and pretty much grew up together. Well, we started dating on halloween this year. And shortly after that, he asked me to marry him. We've been together for a little over a month already. I need some opinions on the engagement...my parents dated 3 months before they got engaged and were married almost 25 years.

I was just wondering if being together for a month was long enough to know. i accepted without a doubt. we're going to wait about 4 years before going forward with anything, and we're both going to work and go to school.

Hmm. Personally, if I and my boyfriend had been friends previously for four years, then decided to take our friendship to the next level and within less than a month he proposed to me... I would have said no. A relationship is a lot different than a friendship, especially if you come from a friendship into a relationship. Everyone I know whose taken that step has said that it was different (or something along those lines), that the relationship didn't last and that their friendship was never the same. That's not to say that it can't work out or that would happen, but it is a possibility even if you don't think it can be. My partner and I have known each other and have been together for over 4 years, he's one of my best friends. However, we didn't start out as friends. When I first met him, and likewise when he first met me, I wanted to be more than just friends. If we had been friends previously before for how many years and then decided that we wanted to take it to the next step, I have no doubt in my mind that it would be different, maybe our relationship wouldn't even have lasted and maybe our friendship wouldn't be the same... Hypothetically that's even hard to imagine... I would take it slow, especially if I were your age, there's no need to rush into anything (marriage, engagement, a relationship or other). This is just my two cents.

Do I think it's too soon? That's really your call to make, but if I had to say anything, I'd say that if you have to ask, then yes, it's too soon.

You're 17 years old, as am I. technically, you can't even get married without parental constent. it's way too soon. a relationship is something you build and build for a long time before getting engaged happens. and I hate to burst a bubble, but you are not your parents. great that it worked out for them, but it doesn't mean it works out for everyone.

my parents had an arranged marriage, and luckily they actually did fall in love. but do you see me asking them to find me a husband for Christmas?

"a relationship is something you build and build for a long time before getting engaged happens. and I hate to burst a bubble, but you are not your parents. great that it worked out for them, but it doesn't mean it works out for everyone."

^ I agree. They may have been friends for 4 years, but a friendship is different from a relationship.

You should work on your newly found relationship first before jumping the saddle or pushing to make the relationship work. Take it slow, especially at your age and especially because you have doubts, there's no need for either of you to rush one another into anything (marriage, engagement, a relationship or other).

Typically, 6 months is the measuring date. after 6 months of dating you've found out all that probably ever will without living with him. you should see if you can last 6 months before you get married.

I completley and not doubt agree with ANB. You're not ready. Just reading this stuff just tells me in my mind that you're not ready. I know that no one on here is going to change your mind, but you're going to realize it when you're filing for divorce. Sorry, it sounds harsh, but people like you are the reason why we have more people getting divorced than staying together in this world. Just saying, my personal opinion, you should NOT get married.

Please, just a take a moment to think. Think about where you both are going with your lives and think about how much you seriously want this. One month is pretty damn short.

Why not wait? If you guys both love each other than what's the hurry? Wait it out. Or at least wait until you are legally an adult.

Wow ur only 17 u have a whole life ahead of u sweetheart u barely know him get to know each I dated my husband for 8 months and got engaged and married but ur still a child live ur life when the time is come god will tell u when its ur time believe me ur way too young and take it from me be sure u really know the true him inside and out later down the road live w him to know if this is truely what u want and can get along right now ur in the puppy love stage where omg all I think bout is him he's so wonderful but then when u start living w him its a whole different story and believe me its easy to get married but it cost and arm and a leg to get out! Just be yourself follow ur heart finish school and don't do what I did and marry a man that cracks ur windshield or ur car I was very dumb marriage there is a whole lot to learn about each other I wish u the best of luck!!