... his "ideal" girl.

I've been hanging out with this guy for awhile now. i met him through a friend. he's pretty cool, we talk everyday and hang out i'd say more than you usually do when you first meet someone. he even spent christmas with my family which i thought was really cool since we technically are not even dating. we've had sex and cuddled and he just holds me through the night and when i cant see him he calls me and we talk for like hours. he tells me how all his ex's mean nothing to him like i would be worried if they did... but,
heres my problem. i'm a little overweight. and he says that i'm cute and stuff but he keeps telling me about his ideal girl with a small waist and this and that. but he never tells me that i'm not what he is looking for he just always says like when we are watching tv and he sees a pretty girl that "thats the kind of girl i'm looking for". does that mean that he's not necessarily interested in me?
also, i've seen him talking to a few other girls on his phone and such.. but i dont really think he hangs out with them because he is usually with me. whenever i ask him about it he says that i shouldnt let me emotions get to me and i should relax.

quite honestly, i'm ok with not dating him, like that is not the part that bothers me i just like dont want him to be juggling me around with other girls and stuff like that. every time i ask him about it he kind of just brushes it off so it really makes me feel insecure. is he just stringing me along till the next best thing comes? or like, what could i do to get a straight answer from him. i'd really like to continue to hang out with him and stuff but i dont know if thats the best idea the way things are going... what do you guys think?

I think he might be stringing you along because you've done all the things couples usually do but yet aren't together. Why wouldn't he want to be with you? It seems like he just wants to have fun and not be commited.

Everyone has an "ideal" girl or guy but how many people actually end up with that person? Heck, I would love to have a guy that looks like Brad Pitt or who ever but I probably won't. Nobody really ends up with the person they "expected". We fall in love with whoever without our control. If he says you're fine then I think you should believe him but I feel like he might be playing you though, so maybe...you should stop what you're doing with him and see what happens. Or if you're okay with not being together then be aware that he can do whatever he wants with another girl.

I think that you should deff get him alone and ask him what you jsut said, and get an answer, because he MIGHT be using you or he MIGHT like you and shows it funny! get to the bottom of things before you make a mistake(:

From what you've said, he doesn't sound the most trustworthy. Even if there is nothing going on with other girls, I don't like that he just belittled your questions saying "don't worry about it." By telling you that you shouldn't get too emotional (which it doesn't even sound like you were doing) it seems like he's turning the finger at you and getting defensive.

I'd say, if you don't even need to date him anyway, then forget about it. Hang out with him if you want, but stop having sex and things like that. Instinct says you're getting played.

If you ARE interested in dating him... still stop the sauciness. At least until you're secure with both of your intentions. You want to be with someone who isn't rude (talking about his dream girl) and who wants to be with you as much as you want to be with him.

The third option is to keep doing what you're doing, as long as all you want is some fun. It sounds like it bothers you, though, so I'd do something about it. Good luck!

This is solely my opinion and i'm not trying to regard offense to attraction and stuff.
But men and women always dream or describe to others about there ideal "girl" "man" Husband etc. but like that doesnt mean they're only interested in the person of there "Dreams".
I'd say Just been Straight with him, if disguises the conversation just subtly confront him. He'll might then realise you really wanna chat. I'm not sure if thats makes any sense, but u know what i mean

The final desicion is up to you.. if you want to be happy do it, but if you dont just be yourself even though its hard to accept...